There are sadly many cases where victims disclosed abuse, raised concerns, or were not fully believed or understood until after a serious assault or homicide. Every case is different, but they demonstrate why disclosures should be taken seriously. Some well-known examples include: These cases highlight an important lesson: not every disclosure is ignored, but when warnings… Read More Taking it seriously
For generations, families have repeated the same phrases: “Don’t make a fuss.” “Keep it in the family.” “Think of the children.” “Don’t tell anyone.” “You’ll ruin the family.” “Just keep the peace.” On the surface, these words may sound like they are protecting the family. Too often, they are protecting the abuse. Silence Gives Abuse… Read More “Keep It in the Family” Can Be Dangerous: Why Silence Protects Abuse, Not Victims
One of the most frustrating phrases survivors hear during divorce is: “The marriage has broken down due to irreconcilable differences.” Sometimes that is true. People do grow apart. They fall out of love. They want different futures. Those are genuine irreconcilable differences. But abuse is not one of them. When a relationship ends because one… Read More Stop Calling Abuse “Irreconcilable Differences”
One of the most damaging myths surrounding domestic abuse is the belief that marriage counselling can fix it. It can’t. Healthy relationships experience disagreements, communication problems, financial pressures and periods of emotional distance. Marriage counselling can often help couples work through these issues because both partners are willing to listen, take responsibility and work together. Abuse is… Read More Marriage Guidance Is Not a Treatment for Abuse
For many years I listened to couples talk about being a “team.” At the time, I understood the words, but I didn’t truly understand what they meant. Looking back after more than three decades of marriage, I realise something heartbreaking: I was never part of a team. Many survivors of controlling, abusive or one-sided relationships… Read More What Does Teamwork in a Relationship Really Mean?
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If you were too frightened to report the abuse at the time, you are not alone. Fear is one of the most powerful weapons an abuser has. Many survivors stay silent because they fear violence, retaliation, not being believed, losing their children, or simply surviving another day. But if you are now in a place… Read More It’s Never Too Late to Find Your Voice
One of the most heartbreaking myths surrounding domestic abuse is the belief that if years have passed, it is “too late” to tell someone what happened. It isn’t. Many survivors live with fear, shame, trauma, financial dependence, or coercive control for years before they feel safe enough to speak. Others don’t fully understand that what… Read More Is It Ever Too Late to Report Domestic Abuse?
Many cases of domestic abuse go unreported because of fear. Research across many countries consistently shows that a large proportion of survivors never contact the police or other authorities. Common reasons include: For many survivors, the abuse itself creates the fear that prevents reporting. This is one reason why experts recognize that official crime statistics… Read More Fear or threats
In Spain, police protection from the Guardia Civil or other police forces can continue after a divorce, but it does notautomatically continue simply because the divorce has been finalized. Instead, protection depends on the ongoing level of risk, not on whether you are still married. Factors that are considered include: If the authorities assess that there is still a significant… Read More Protection Continues
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