For many survivors of domestic abuse, leaving the relationship is not the end of the risk—it can be the point at which the risk increases.

Research and frontline experience have shown that abuse can escalate during separation, divorce proceedings, and disputes over finances, property, or child arrangements. When an abusive person feels they are losing control, they may intensify attempts to regain it.

This can include:

• Increased threats or intimidation.
• Stalking or unwanted contact.
• Harassment through messages or social media.
• Attempts to manipulate family or friends.
• Financial pressure or attempts to hide or control assets.
• Refusing to cooperate with legal processes.
• Using children or finances as a means of control.
• False allegations or attempts to damage the other person’s reputation.
• Attempts to pressure the survivor into accepting an unfair financial settlement.

Where the police have identified a genuine risk, they may take safeguarding measures that are appropriate to the circumstances. These are based on the specific evidence and risk assessment in that case—not simply because a divorce is taking place.

While financial disputes can increase tension, it is not a person’s interest in money alone that creates risk. The greater concern is a pattern of coercive control, threats, intimidation, or violence, particularly if the abusive person believes they are losing power or control.

If you are leaving an abusive relationship and are worried that the situation is becoming more dangerous, take any threats seriously. Speak to the police, your solicitor, or a specialist domestic abuse service about creating a safety plan and documenting any concerning behaviour.