This is the getting-to-know-you stage. 👉 Think: “We’re seeing how this goes.” 🔹 A relationship This is a defined, mutual agreement. 👉 Think: “We’ve chosen each other.” 🔑 The core difference 🔴 The simplest test If you have to ask: “What are we?” You’re probably still dating, not in a relationship.
Destructive behaviour in marriages and relationships isn’t always obvious at first—it often builds slowly and becomes “normalised” over time. Understanding the patterns is the first step to protecting yourself and making clear decisions. 🔴 Common destructive behaviours 1. Lack of communication or avoidance 2. Controlling behaviour 3. Emotional manipulation 4. Disrespect 5. Inconsistency / hot-and-cold… Read More Destructive Behaviour
Let’s clear something up that modern dating has made unnecessarily complicated: Not all intense attention is love.And not all charm is genuine. Sometimes it’s just bullshit with confidence.Other times it’s love bombing with intention. And yes—they feel similar at first. That’s the problem. 🧠 FIRST: YOUR BRAIN DOESN’T KNOW THE DIFFERENCE INITIALLY When someone comes in hot,… Read More 🎭 The Difference Between Bullshit and Love Bombing (And Why Your Gut Always Knows First)
You know the type. You match online and suddenly you’ve met: At first, it sounds like you’ve hit the jackpot. But your nervous system quietly whispers: “This feels like a trailer, not a person.” 🧠 THE FIRST CLUE: IT’S ALL IMPRESSIVE, VERY QUICKLY Real life doesn’t usually arrive fully packaged in bullet points. But the… Read More 🎭 When You Meet the “Big House, Big Job, Big Talk” Bullshitter Online
Let’s talk about something nobody really wants to admit out loud: Dating apps don’t just show you people.They sometimes show you performances. And when someone is not being honest about who they are… the whole system breaks down emotionally, psychologically, and very quickly. 🧠 THE FIRST PROBLEM: YOUR BRAIN BELIEVES THE STORY When someone presents themselves… Read More 💔 Truth, Honesty & Dating Apps: What Happens When People Pretend to Be Someone They’re Not?
Let’s be honest. We didn’t grow up dating through screens, swipes, emojis, disappearing messages, or people who “viewed your message” but developed sudden emotional amnesia. We grew up with: Now? We are suddenly expected to compete in a world where romance looks like a game of digital ping-pong with strangers who may or may not… Read More 📱 5 Decades On… Back in the Dating World Without Phones, Apps or a Clue (How Do We “Oldies” Deal With It?)
Let’s be honest. Dating apps were designed for romance…But some people are on there for something far less poetic: A bit of attention… and something to do when life gets boring. And your nervous system knows the difference even when your ego doesn’t want to admit it. 🧠 THE NEW TYPE OF APP USER: “THE PART-TIMER” Not… Read More 📱 Dating Apps: For Some People It’s Love… For Others It’s Just Entertainment
If you’ve ever stared at your phone thinking: “What does THAT mean?” The answer is usually simpler than your nervous system wants to believe. Because texting isn’t just communication anymore—it’s behavioural evidence with emojis. Let’s decode it properly. 🧠 FIRST: WHY TEXTING FEELS SO POWERFUL Your brain treats messaging like real-time social connection. Every ping can… Read More 💬 The Texting Behaviour Decoder (What His Messages Are Really Signalling)
Your brain is smarter than your dating diary. In fact, long before you say “something feels off”, your nervous system has already filed a full report… you just didn’t read it properly. Let’s translate what your body already knows. 🧠 1. “I FEEL UNEASY AFTER HE TEXTS” This is not chemistry. It is activation without safety. If… Read More 🚩 Red Flags Your Nervous System Already Noticed (But You Talked Yourself Out Of)
Dating again after 50 isn’t a second chance at love—it’s a second chance at not tolerating nonsense. But underneath the humour, confusion, and occasional eye-rolls… your brain is doing something very real, very biological, and very predictable. Let’s break it down. 🧠 THE NEUROSCIENCE OF “WHY IS THIS SO INTENSE?” When you start dating again later… Read More 💘 Dating After 50: What Your Brain Is Really Doing (And Why It’s Not “Just You”)
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 