Category: LINDA C J TURNER – Trauma Therapist

When the Behaviour You Taught Comes Back to You

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The content discusses how children learn behaviors from their parents, often unconsciously adopting negative patterns such as manipulation, disrespect, or cruelty. It emphasizes the importance of modeling healthy relationship dynamics, as children may later reflect these learned behaviors back onto their parents. The piece urges introspection on what values are being taught through actions, not just words.… Read More When the Behaviour You Taught Comes Back to You

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Why I Do This Work: Experience, Empathy and Professional Understanding

I don’t do this work out of pity. I do it because I understand. For decades, I have worked with people experiencing emotional pain, difficult relationships, trauma and periods in their lives when they have felt unseen, unheard or misunderstood. Over those years, I have learned something that has stayed with me: People don’t always… Read More Why I Do This Work: Experience, Empathy and Professional Understanding

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How Financial Abuse Hides in Long-Term Marriages

After leaving a toxic relationship, individuals often gain clarity on long-term manipulation and financial abuse. The realization reveals patterns of control, isolation, and hidden finances, highlighting a system designed to benefit one partner. Recovery offers empowerment as survivors understand their experiences and the importance of protecting their assets before it’s too late.… Read More How Financial Abuse Hides in Long-Term Marriages

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Healing Family Trauma: Letting Go of Anger Toward Abusive Parents

Children raised in abusive environments often carry deep emotional scars into adulthood, leading to unresolved anger and a desire for revenge against their abuser, particularly a parent. This anger can strain family relationships and perpetuate cycles of trauma. Healing requires acknowledgment, boundaries, and sometimes professional support to break free from the past.… Read More Healing Family Trauma: Letting Go of Anger Toward Abusive Parents

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Anger Issue or Abuse? How to Tell the Crucial Difference

The post differentiates between individuals struggling with anger and those exhibiting abusive behavior. It emphasizes that genuine anger issues involve remorse and accountability, while abuse entails blame and manipulation. The message advocates for boundaries and consequences, stating that repeated anger is a deliberate choice, not a consequence of external factors.… Read More Anger Issue or Abuse? How to Tell the Crucial Difference

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When Love Feels Unsafe: Recognising the Hidden Patterns of Abuse

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Abuse often starts subtly, with minor behaviors that can escalate into harmful patterns impacting safety and mental health. Rooted in power and control rather than anger, it can manifest as emotional harm, intimidation, and physical aggression. Recognizing these patterns is crucial to prioritizing one’s wellbeing and fostering safe relationships.… Read More When Love Feels Unsafe: Recognising the Hidden Patterns of Abuse

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Healthy Anger vs Abusive / Harmful Behaviour 

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The content outlines the distinctions between healthy anger and abusive behavior across various dimensions, including emotional tone, verbal expression, and physical actions. Healthy anger is described as regulated and communicative, while abusive behavior is characterized as dysregulated and controlling. The key message emphasizes that healthy anger maintains boundaries, whereas abusive anger creates fear and safety risks.… Read More Healthy Anger vs Abusive / Harmful Behaviour 

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“Keep It in the Family” Can Be Dangerous: Why Silence Protects Abuse, Not Victims

Abuse thrives in secrecy.

Whether it is physical violence, coercive control, emotional abuse, financial abuse or sexual abuse, perpetrators often rely on silence to continue their behaviour.

When victims are discouraged from speaking, or when those around them minimise what they disclose, the abusive behaviour can become more frequent, more severe and more dangerous.

Silence is not a solution.… Read More “Keep It in the Family” Can Be Dangerous: Why Silence Protects Abuse, Not Victims

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