You cannot change someone else’s values, no matter how much you explain, justify, or hope they will see things differently. People act from who they are — their beliefs, their patterns, and what they prioritise. But what you can control is yourself. What you accept What you tolerate What you give And where you draw the line… Read More Protecting Your Values in a World That Doesn’t Always Share Them
Most people understand fairness. They understand balance — giving, taking, contributing, respecting others. But there are some individuals who operate very differently. They show up when something is free.They are present when someone else is paying.They benefit where they can — regardless of relationships, values, or integrity. And often, they will align themselves with people… Read More When People Take Advantage: The Psychology of Entitlement and Lack of Integrity
Low impulse control becomes much more significant — and more harmful — when it shows up in abusive or high-conflict personalities. Here’s how it typically plays out: 1. Fast Emotional Reactions Turn Into Harmful Behaviour In these personalities, emotions (especially anger, frustration, or feeling “disrespected”) rise very quickly — and there’s little pause before acting. So… Read More Abusive or high-conflict personalities.
Low impulse control means having difficulty stopping yourself from acting on urges, emotions, or thoughts in the moment — even when you know the action might have negative consequences. It’s not about intelligence or knowing right from wrong. It’s about the gap between feeling something and being able to pause before acting on it. What it looks like in… Read More Low impulse control
A Slightly Honest… Slightly Dramatic Answer People often ask me: “What was it like living in France?” And without missing a beat, I usually reply: “Like solitary confinement… for 16 years.” Now, I know that sounds completely absurd. A bit dramatic.Possibly questionable.Definitely not something you’d expect someone to say about living in France. But honestly?… Read More “What Was It Like Living in France?”
It’s funny where life takes you sometimes. You don’t always understand it while you’re in it — the moves, the changes, the places you end up. At the time, you just keep going, doing your best, making it work. But when you look back, it starts to make sense. It Was Always There Spain was… Read More Funny How Life Brings You Back to Where You Belong
Sometimes clarity doesn’t come from big decisions or dramatic moments. It comes quietly — in the middle of a good weekend, surrounded by the right people, in a place that simply feels… right. And suddenly you realise: This is where I’m meant to be. A Feeling That Never Left What makes it even more powerful… Read More A Quiet Realisation: Why Staying Feels Right
Sometimes clarity doesn’t come from big decisions or dramatic moments. It comes quietly — in the middle of a good weekend, surrounded by the right people, in a place that simply feels… right. And suddenly you realise: This is why I need to stay. The Power of Familiarity There is something deeply stabilising about familiarity.… Read More A Quiet Realisation: Why Staying Matters More Than Leaving
Every now and then, life gives you a moment that reminds you how it’s meant to feel. A perfect weekend isn’t about luxury or perfection — it’s about energy. The kind that feels easy, natural, and real. The kind that doesn’t need effort. It’s good friends.It’s music in the background.It’s sunshine on your face.It’s laughter that comes… Read More When Life Feels Light Again: The Power of a Perfect Weekend
When abuse continues after separation, it is often misunderstood as emotional “refusal to move on.” In reality, psychology and neuroscience show that entrenched behavioural patterns do not automatically soften when a relationship ends — and in some cases, external distance can intensify control-based responses. At the same time, in many jurisdictions, behaviours such as harassment,… Read More Criminal Liability, Behavioural Control, and the Neuroscience of Post-Separation Abuse
