There is a moment in healing that doesn’t come from books, or theory, or even understanding. It comes from being seen. Recently, someone said to me:“Despite his best attempts, he hasn’t managed to kill your soul.” And another:“You still have a large, soft heart… you’re still open to love.” After everything I had been through,… Read More They Didn’t Kill My Soul — And That Is the Real Victory
This collection of lectures and essays by Alfred Adler brings together one of his most important ideas: That the desire for superiority must be balanced by social interest. Adler did not believe that striving to improve oneself was wrong. In fact, he saw it as a natural and necessary part of being human. We all want… Read More Superiority and Social Interest (Posthumous, 1964)
This series explores human behaviour, relationships, and emotional resilience through the work of Alfred Adler—one of the first psychologists to focus not just on what is “wrong” with people, but on how they can grow, connect, and find meaning. Each piece stands alone, but together they tell a deeper story: 1. The Neurotic Constitution —… Read More Understanding Human Behaviour: An Adlerian Series
In 1912, Alfred Adler published The Neurotic Constitution, introducing a powerful idea: That many unhealthy behaviours are not random—but rooted in a deep sense of inferiority. Adler believed that when a person feels fundamentally “less than”—not good enough, not important enough, not secure enough—they don’t simply sit with that feeling. Instead, they try to compensate… Read More From Inferiority to Control: What Adler Can Teach Us About Harmful Relationship Dynamics
Kindness costs nothing. No money.No status.No special privilege. And yet, for some people, it seems to be the hardest thing in the world to offer. That truth can be difficult to understand—especially if you are someone who gives kindness naturally. If you are someone who considers others, who chooses your words carefully, who would rather… Read More Kindness Costs Nothing — Yet Some People Still Refuse to Give It
Recently, someone said something to me that stopped me in my tracks: “Despite his best attempts, he hasn’t managed to kill your soul.” Another person told me, “You still have a large, soft heart… you’re still open to love.” To most people, these might sound like simple observations.To me, they felt like music. Because after everything… Read More They Didn’t Kill My Soul
Psychologists sometimes refer to a subtle but deeply impactful experience as ambiguous deprivation.It’s not about something dramatic that happened to you.It’s about what didn’t. It’s the quiet absence of what should have been there: And because nothing obvious was “taken,” it can be incredibly hard to name. The Loss You Can’t Point To Unlike clear trauma, ambiguous… Read More Ambiguous Deprivation: The Invisible Loss That Shapes Us
Discover the difference between love and survival. This article explores emotional abuse, healing after divorce, and how to rebuild self-worth and inner beauty.… Read More Staying Wasn’t Love—It Was Survival
Redefining beauty, strength, and self-worth after divorce In a world that constantly measures beauty by appearance, we often forget where true beauty actually lives. To be beautiful on the inside is to embrace our humanity with grace. It is not about perfection, nor about always getting things right. It is about allowing ourselves to feel… Read More Staying Was Survival—Leaving Was Transformation
A Slightly Honest… Slightly Dramatic Answer People often ask me: “What was it like living in France?” And without missing a beat, I usually reply: “Like solitary confinement… for 16 years.” Now, I know that sounds completely absurd. A bit dramatic.Possibly questionable.Definitely not something you’d expect someone to say about living in France. But honestly?… Read More “What Was It Like Living in France?”
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 