Abuse is a term that refers to the mistreatment, harm, or infliction of injury on someone, either through physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, or other means. Abuse can occur in various contexts, including relationships, families, institutions, and broader social settings. It is a serious violation of an individual’s rights and can have profound and lasting effects on their physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.
The case is significant not only because of the extreme violence described, but because the court recognized that long-term intimate-partner violence can justify a substantial civil damages award. Justice Susan Vella of the Ontario Superior Court of Justice awarded the woman $400,000 in damages after a nine-day trial. The decision followed a 54-year marriage in which the judge found… Read More Landmark Canadian domestic-abuse judgment.
When people think of domestic abuse, they often picture shouting, threats, or physical violence. What is less recognised is financial abuse—a form of coercive control that can quietly erode a person’s independence, confidence, and future over many years. Financial abuse isn’t simply about one partner earning more than the other. It is about using money as a… Read More When Financial Abuse Is Hidden in Plain Sight
One of the most painful experiences for survivors of domestic abuse is hearing someone close to them say: “I doubt he’ll kill you.” It may be intended as reassurance, but to someone living with abuse, those words can feel dismissive, minimising, and dangerously out of touch with reality. The truth is that relatives, friends, and… Read More “I Doubt He’ll Kill You” – Why Well-Meaning Relatives Can Get It Wrong
One of the most astonishing aspects of abusive relationships is not always the abuse itself. Sometimes it is what happens afterwards. An abusive partner may deny everything, rewrite history, invent elaborate stories, and even swear under oath that their version of events is the truth. They may accuse their victim of lying, exaggerating, or being… Read More When an Abuser Invents a Story Under Oath… Then Expects You to Take Them Back
One of the most confusing experiences for many people in abusive relationships is finally finding the courage to reach out to their partner’s family, only to be met with silence, denial, insults, or even blame. You hope someone will listen. You hope someone will say, “We had no idea. How can we help?” Instead, your message… Read More When You Reach Out to the Family… and Are Met With Silence or Hostility
Many survivors believe that once a case has been closed, or if no charges were brought, there is no possibility of justice. That is not always true. In today’s world, many abusive relationships cross international borders. Couples relocate for work, retire abroad, or move between countries during long-term relationships. Abuse may occur in one country… Read More Can an Abuse Case Be Reopened in Another Country?
From a psychological and neuroscientific perspective, this can happen. Some abusive individuals will make decisions that appear irrational—sacrificing relationships, finances, reputation, or even their own future—because the immediate need to dominate or avoid feeling powerless overrides long-term self-interest. The key point is that control is not the same as power. The Psychology of the Illusion of… Read More The Psychology of the Illusion of Control
One of the most confusing experiences for survivors of coercive control is discovering, often years later, that other people had quietly felt uncomfortable too. Friends may say: “There was always something that didn’t feel right.” “I couldn’t relax around them.” “They seemed cold.” “There was something intimidating about them.” “I couldn’t understand why you always… Read More “Everyone Said the Same Thing”: When Other People Notice Something Isn’t Right
Not every abusive person is motivated by money. Some seek power, admiration, control or emotional dominance. For others, however, money becomes one of the most powerful tools of manipulation. In these relationships, finances are not simply about paying bills or planning for the future. They become a means of gaining control, creating dependence and serving… Read More The Money-Motivated Abuser: When Financial Gain Becomes More Important Than People
When someone leaves an abusive or controlling relationship, many people assume the hardest part is over. Often, it isn’t. Leaving may end the relationship, but recovery takes time. Years of criticism, control, intimidation and emotional manipulation can change how a person sees themselves and the world around them. The question becomes: What helps someone recover? The… Read More Helping Someone Recover After Abuse: What Matters Most?
