How long people typically stay in the dating phase

🔹 0–3 dates Pure exploration First impressions, chemistry, basic compatibility👉 No expectations yet 🔹 3–6 dates (around 2–4 weeks) Interest is building (or fading) You start to see patterns (effort, consistency, communication)👉 This is where people decide: continue or drop off 🔹 1–2 months You’re seeing each other regularly More personal conversations Emotional connection starts forming👉 This… Read More How long people typically stay in the dating phase

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Going out with someone (dating)

This is the getting-to-know-you stage. You spend time together, but it’s not defined No clear expectations or commitments Either person may still see others Plans can be casual or last-minute You’re exploring compatibility 👉 Think: “We’re seeing how this goes.” 🔹 A relationship This is a defined, mutual agreement. You’ve both agreed you’re together There’s consistency and reliability… Read More Going out with someone (dating)

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Destructive Behaviour

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Destructive behaviour in marriages and relationships isn’t always obvious at first—it often builds slowly and becomes “normalised” over time. Understanding the patterns is the first step to protecting yourself and making clear decisions. 🔴 Common destructive behaviours 1. Lack of communication or avoidance Shutting down, ignoring, or refusing to talk about issues “Silent treatment” used… Read More Destructive Behaviour

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🎭 The Difference Between Bullshit and Love Bombing (And Why Your Gut Always Knows First)

Let’s clear something up that modern dating has made unnecessarily complicated: Not all intense attention is love.And not all charm is genuine. Sometimes it’s just bullshit with confidence.Other times it’s love bombing with intention. And yes—they feel similar at first. That’s the problem. 🧠 FIRST: YOUR BRAIN DOESN’T KNOW THE DIFFERENCE INITIALLY When someone comes in hot,… Read More 🎭 The Difference Between Bullshit and Love Bombing (And Why Your Gut Always Knows First)

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🎭 When You Meet the “Big House, Big Job, Big Talk” Bullshitter Online

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

You know the type. You match online and suddenly you’ve met: a self-made success story owner of a “beautiful big house” driver of a “flashy car” traveller of the world emotionally “very evolved” and apparently… absolutely never impressed by anything or anyone At first, it sounds like you’ve hit the jackpot. But your nervous system quietly… Read More 🎭 When You Meet the “Big House, Big Job, Big Talk” Bullshitter Online

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💔 Truth, Honesty & Dating Apps: What Happens When People Pretend to Be Someone They’re Not?

Let’s talk about something nobody really wants to admit out loud: Dating apps don’t just show you people.They sometimes show you performances. And when someone is not being honest about who they are… the whole system breaks down emotionally, psychologically, and very quickly. 🧠 THE FIRST PROBLEM: YOUR BRAIN BELIEVES THE STORY When someone presents themselves… Read More 💔 Truth, Honesty & Dating Apps: What Happens When People Pretend to Be Someone They’re Not?

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📱 5 Decades On… Back in the Dating World Without Phones, Apps or a Clue (How Do We “Oldies” Deal With It?)

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Let’s be honest. We didn’t grow up dating through screens, swipes, emojis, disappearing messages, or people who “viewed your message” but developed sudden emotional amnesia. We grew up with: actual phone calls proper conversations waiting to bump into someone in real life and the terrifying concept of being patient Now? We are suddenly expected to compete… Read More 📱 5 Decades On… Back in the Dating World Without Phones, Apps or a Clue (How Do We “Oldies” Deal With It?)

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📱 Dating Apps: For Some People It’s Love… For Others It’s Just Entertainment

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Let’s be honest. Dating apps were designed for romance…But some people are on there for something far less poetic: A bit of attention… and something to do when life gets boring. And your nervous system knows the difference even when your ego doesn’t want to admit it. 🧠 THE NEW TYPE OF APP USER: “THE PART-TIMER” Not… Read More 📱 Dating Apps: For Some People It’s Love… For Others It’s Just Entertainment

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💬 The Texting Behaviour Decoder (What His Messages Are Really Signalling)

If you’ve ever stared at your phone thinking: “What does THAT mean?” The answer is usually simpler than your nervous system wants to believe. Because texting isn’t just communication anymore—it’s behavioural evidence with emojis. Let’s decode it properly. 🧠 FIRST: WHY TEXTING FEELS SO POWERFUL Your brain treats messaging like real-time social connection. Every ping can… Read More 💬 The Texting Behaviour Decoder (What His Messages Are Really Signalling)

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🚩 Red Flags Your Nervous System Already Noticed (But You Talked Yourself Out Of)

Your brain is smarter than your dating diary. In fact, long before you say “something feels off”, your nervous system has already filed a full report… you just didn’t read it properly. Let’s translate what your body already knows. 🧠 1. “I FEEL UNEASY AFTER HE TEXTS” This is not chemistry. It is activation without safety. If… Read More 🚩 Red Flags Your Nervous System Already Noticed (But You Talked Yourself Out Of)

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