When Someone Has a History of Violence: Disclosure, Accountability and Safety
One of the most confusing experiences for many people in abusive relationships is finally finding the courage to reach out to their partner’s family, only to be met with silence, denial, insults, or even blame. You hope someone will listen. You hope someone will say, “We had no idea. How can we help?” Instead, your message… Read More When You Reach Out to the Family… and Are Met With Silence or Hostility
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In many countries, there is no public database that lets you search another person’s history, but there are schemes that allow people at risk to ask police for relevant information. For example: United Kingdom: Clare’s Law allows someone to ask the police if a current or former partner has a history of domestic abuse or… Read More Checking them out
When I recovered the backup drive after the computer had been wiped, I wasn’t simply recovering digital files. I was recovering part of my own history. For years, I had kept documents, photographs, correspondence, and records that helped me make sense of what I had lived through. Some of those files became important evidence during… Read More The Backup Drive: Recovering More Than Files
For many survivors, seeking justice and acknowledgement is an important part of the healing journey. It is not about dwelling on the past or reopening old wounds—it is about having their experiences recognised, understanding their rights, and knowing that what happened to them matters. Whether through the criminal justice system, civil proceedings, or simply gaining… Read More Cross-border domestic abuse
Understanding what information is shared between countries about domestic abuse and domestic violence is essential for survivors seeking justice across international borders. In cross-border domestic abuse and international domestic violence cases, authorities may exchange police reports, criminal investigations, court documents, protection orders, risk assessments, and evidence where legally permitted. This cooperation can play a crucial role when a survivor has moved to… Read More International domestic violence cases
No survivor should ever feel they have “left it too late.” Seeking information about reopening an abuse case is not about reopening old wounds—it is about understanding your legal rights, reclaiming your voice, and making informed decisions about your future. Whether your experience involves cross-border domestic abuse, international domestic violence cases, coercive control, psychological abuse, or physical violence, you may… Read More Left it too late!
Many survivors believe that once a case has been closed, or if no charges were brought, there is no possibility of justice. That is not always true. In today’s world, many abusive relationships cross international borders. Couples relocate for work, retire abroad, or move between countries during long-term relationships. Abuse may occur in one country… Read More Can an Abuse Case Be Reopened in Another Country?
The increase in reports of non-fatal strangulation is not necessarily a sign that it is happening more often—it is a sign that it is finally being recognised. For too long, survivors were dismissed because there were few visible injuries. We now understand, through neuroscience and domestic abuse research, that strangulation can cause brain injury, long-term… Read More I was one of those survivors.
There is no simple answer. Some people recognise the abuse within months. Others remain in emotionally abusive relationships for years or even decades. The question is not how long someone can survive—it is what surviving that environment can gradually cost them. When Warmth Is Replaced by Emotional Coldness Living with a partner who is consistently cold, dismissive… Read More How Long Can Someone Survive an Emotionally Cold and Abusive Relationship?
