Mental health refers to a person’s emotional, psychological, and social well-being, encompassing the ability to handle stress, relate to others, make decisions, and navigate the challenges of life. It influences how individuals think, feel, and act, contributing to the overall balance and quality of their lives. Mental health is essential at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood.
Many abusive relationships begin with requests that sound caring or practical. “Give me your password… just in case.” “Let me have access to your bank account… just in case.” “I need your phone PIN… just in case.” “I should know everything… just in case.” At first, it can sound reasonable. You may even believe it… Read More “Just in Case” – Or Just Another Way to Gain Control?
Abuse can manifest beyond physical violence, encompassing control over a person’s freedom, finances, communication, and access to information. Warning signs include restricting movement, financial manipulation, and digital control. Healthy relationships are rooted in trust and equality; recognizing patterns of coercive behavior is vital for seeking help and support.… Read More Coercive and Controlling Behaviours: How Abusers Restrict Freedom
Privacy is healthy. Secrecy that protects abuse is not. One common tactic in controlling families or abusive relationships is creating an unwritten rule that certain things must never be discussed outside the family. This can discourage victims from seeking help and make it easier for abuse to continue. Phrases That May Be Used to Silence… Read More When “Keeping It Private” Becomes a Tool of Control
No single answer proves that abuse or financial control has occurred. However, asking thoughtful questions can help identify patterns of coercive control, manipulation, or unhealthy relationship dynamics. Communication and Openness Are people free to speak openly, or do they appear afraid of saying the wrong thing? Do family members or friends avoid discussing certain topics?… Read More Questions to Ask When Trying to Understand the Dynamics of a Relationship
If several of these warning signs are present, don’t ignore them or assume they will improve with time. Abuse often escalates rather than disappears. Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, take those feelings seriously. Don’t allow yourself to become isolated from family and friends. Maintain your own support network. Continue your hobbies, work, and… Read More What to Do If You Notice These Warning Signs
Abuse rarely begins with obvious violence. It often starts with subtle behaviours that become more controlling over time. While no single sign proves someone is abusive, a pattern of these behaviours should never be ignored. Pay Attention to Their History Do they have a history of abusive or controlling relationships? Do former partners describe similar… Read More Warning Signs of Abuse in a New Relationship
One of the most painful experiences for survivors is not just the abuse itself. It is watching people explain it away. A bruise becomes “an accident.” A threat becomes “an argument.” Years of coercive control become “marital problems.” A criminal conviction becomes “a misunderstanding.” A medical report is dismissed. A psychologist’s assessment is questioned. Photographs… Read More How Much Evidence Is Enough Before We Call Abuse What It Is?
Abusive people rarely introduce themselves as abusive. Many are charming, successful, funny and well-liked. Friends, neighbours and colleagues may describe them as kind, generous or helpful. That is why it is so important to look beyond first impressions. Abuse is rarely revealed by one incident. It is recognised through consistent patterns of behaviour over time. Don’t… Read More Looking Beyond First Impressions: Recognising Patterns of Abuse
When an abusive relationship ends, the abuse itself often doesn’t disappear. Sometimes, the behaviour changes form. Instead of controlling a partner behind closed doors, the person who was abusive may begin controlling the story. This can be particularly confusing for a new partner, who hears only one version of events. While every situation is different,… Read More “It Wasn’t Me, It Was My Ex…” — Common Narratives Used After an Abusive Relationship Ends
Why Some People Change Dramatically When They Stop Taking Their Medication Families living with severe mental illness often describe seeing two very different versions of the same person. While taking their prescribed medication, they may appear calmer, sleep better, think more clearly and cope more effectively with everyday life. When they stop taking their medication,… Read More On off medication
