Healing Trauma and Attachment

Trauma can profoundly shape the way we form attachments, influencing both our relationships and emotional patterns. Here’s a clear breakdown: 1. Basics of Attachment Styles Attachment theory identifies four main styles: Secure: Comfortable with intimacy, trusts others, can rely on others and self. Anxious (Preoccupied): Craves closeness, fears abandonment, often seeks constant reassurance. Avoidant (Dismissive): Struggles with intimacy,… Read More Healing Trauma and Attachment

Attachment styles

Attachment styles are patterns of relating to others that develop early in life, typically based on interactions with caregivers, and continue to influence relationships in adulthood. They shape how we perceive intimacy, trust, dependence, and emotional regulation. From psychology and neuroscience perspectives, attachment styles are linked to brain circuits involved in emotion regulation, social cognition,… Read More Attachment styles

Letting go of attachments

Letting go of attachments—whether to people, possessions, or identities—is a profound challenge. From both neuroscience and psychology perspectives, this difficulty stems from the deep-rooted nature of attachment systems in the brain and the complex interplay between early experiences, emotional regulation, and cognitive patterns. 🧠 The Neuroscience of Attachment Attachment behaviors are deeply embedded in our… Read More Letting go of attachments

Physical, emotional, and financial abuse.

You want to present evidence in court showing physical, emotional, and financial abuse. Here’s a structured approach for each type with practical steps and evidence you can gather. I’ll break it down clearly so it can serve as both a checklist and a guide for your case. 1. Physical Abuse Definition: Any intentional bodily harm or threat… Read More Physical, emotional, and financial abuse.

🏦 Hidden Assets & Deception

Here’s a structured list of the main forms of financial abuse in domestic or family settings — especially where control, coercion, and hidden assets are involved. 💳 Direct Control of Money Taking partner’s wages, benefits, or pensions. Restricting access to joint bank accounts. Forcing partner to ask for money or “allowances.” Monitoring every purchase, demanding receipts. Cancelling cards… Read More 🏦 Hidden Assets & Deception

Reported strangulation / non-fatal strangulation

Reported strangulation / non-fatal strangulation (i.e. choking, strangling, suffocating) in domestic/intimate partner / domestic violence. Data are still scarce, with variation by country, study population, and whether hospital/forensic or police data. Key Statistics on Strangulation in Domestic / Intimate Partner Violence Statistic Value / Range Population / Setting Notes Lifetime prevalence of non-fatal intimate-partner strangulation among… Read More Reported strangulation / non-fatal strangulation

Headline reported-crime numbers (most recent official sources)

Global femicides / family-member killings (2023) — UNODC / UN Women: about one woman killed every 10 minutes by an intimate partner or family member (summary headline from the 2023 femicide estimates). This reflects recorded homicides classified as intimate-partner / family-member femicides. UNODC+1 England & Wales (year ending March 2024) — 851,062 domestic abuse-related crimes recorded by police (1,350,428 domestic abuse incidents &… Read More Headline reported-crime numbers (most recent official sources)

Key Global Prevalence Figures

Here are some of the most recent global estimates and statistics on physical, emotional/psychological, and financial abuse, including intimate partner, elder, children-abuse, etc. These are prevalence figures, not always “reported crimes,” because underreporting is a major issue. Key Global Prevalence Figures Population / Type Abuse Type Prevalence / Key Stats Violence against women (intimate partner /… Read More Key Global Prevalence Figures

Reclaiming Myself: From Decades of Deprivation to Living Life on My Terms

Recently, I had an enormous clear-out. I went through every wardrobe, every drawer, and every hanger — and removed the clothes I had been wearing for the past 30 years. Clothes my mother had passed down to me, clothes my daughter had given me, and endless second-hand items that I accepted because, for decades, I was restricted… Read More Reclaiming Myself: From Decades of Deprivation to Living Life on My Terms