Addiction, Trauma & the Brain

Addiction, Trauma & the Brain Addiction can be difficult to understand — both for the person experiencing it and for the people around them. My approach looks at addiction through both neuroscience and psychology, recognising that addictive behaviour can involve changes in the brain’s reward, motivation, learning, stress and self-regulation systems. Addiction can involve alcohol, recreational drugs… Read More Addiction, Trauma & the Brain

Rebuild Your Self-Trust After Emotional Abuse

You may have left the relationship, but the self-doubt can remain. Emotional abuse can gradually undermine your confidence in your own thoughts, feelings, memories and decisions. You may find yourself constantly second-guessing yourself, apologising when you have done nothing wrong, feeling guilty for having needs, or wondering whether you were “the problem.” You weren’t too… Read More Rebuild Your Self-Trust After Emotional Abuse

When Abuse Changes the Way You See Yourself: Understanding the Psychology of Control—and Finding Your Way Back

If you have survived an abusive or controlling relationship, you may still be trying to understand what happened. You may ask yourself: Why did I stay?Why did I keep hoping things would change?Why did I start doubting myself?Why do I still feel anxious, even though I’m away from the relationship?Why is it so difficult to… Read More When Abuse Changes the Way You See Yourself: Understanding the Psychology of Control—and Finding Your Way Back

Generational Trauma, Addiction & Abuse

I have a particular interest in the complex relationship between generational trauma, addiction, emotional abuse and dysfunctional family patterns. Trauma does not always begin with the person seeking support. Sometimes the patterns we are struggling with today have developed within a family over many years or even generations. Children can grow up learning relationship patterns, emotional… Read More Generational Trauma, Addiction & Abuse

🌿 Investment & Ways to Work Together

Healing is deeply personal. Your support should feel the same. I believe you should always know exactly what you are investing before you begin. My approach is transparent, compassionate and individually tailored — with no hidden fees, no pressure and no long-term obligation. All sessions are: ✔ Confidential✔ Trauma-informed✔ Neuroscience-informed✔ Compassionate✔ Individually tailored 🌿 Individual Sessions… Read More 🌿 Investment & Ways to Work Together

When a Father Blames the Ex-Wife Instead of Protecting His Daughter

One of the most painful family dynamics can occur when a daughter is being harmed by a boyfriend or partner, yet her father chooses to blame her mother—the ex-wife—instead of confronting what is happening to his daughter. This can be profoundly damaging. Instead of asking, “Why is my daughter being treated this way?”, the father… Read More When a Father Blames the Ex-Wife Instead of Protecting His Daughter

When a Father Watches His Daughter Being Abused: The Pain of Parental Silence

There are few betrayals more painful for a daughter than being abused by someone she loves while a parent watches—and does nothing. We often assume that a father will instinctively protect his daughter. That when he sees a boyfriend, husband or partner hurting her, something inside him will say: “This is not acceptable. I need… Read More When a Father Watches His Daughter Being Abused: The Pain of Parental Silence

What can happen in the abuser’s brain during abusive behaviour?

From a neuroscience perspective, abuse involves changes in the brain and nervous system of both the person being abused and, potentially, the person carrying out the abuse—but we have to be careful not to suggest that there is a single “abuser brain.” People become abusive through complex interactions among learning, personality, emotion regulation, beliefs, environment and… Read More What can happen in the abuser’s brain during abusive behaviour?

Main treatments for trauma

There are several evidence-based approaches to treating trauma. The most appropriate treatment depends on the type of trauma, whether the danger has ended, the person’s symptoms, and whether the trauma was single-event or prolonged/complex. Main treatments for trauma Helps identify and change trauma-related thoughts, beliefs and behaviours. Often used for PTSD, anxiety and avoidance. Uses bilateral… Read More Main treatments for trauma

Trauma is not defined only by what happened

Trauma is not defined only by what happened; it also involves how the nervous system and mind respond to what happened. Different types of trauma Results from a single, overwhelming event. Examples: assault, serious accident, sudden bereavement, natural disaster, violent attack. Develops from repeated or ongoing exposure to threatening or harmful experiences. Examples: prolonged domestic… Read More Trauma is not defined only by what happened