When an Abuser Invents a Story Under Oath… Then Expects You to Take Them Back

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

One of the most astonishing aspects of abusive relationships is not always the abuse itself. Sometimes it is what happens afterwards. An abusive partner may deny everything, rewrite history, invent elaborate stories, and even swear under oath that their version of events is the truth. They may accuse their victim of lying, exaggerating, or being… Read More When an Abuser Invents a Story Under Oath… Then Expects You to Take Them Back

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The Magic Returns

There was a time when birthdays, Christmas, holidays, family gatherings, and celebrations filled me with anxiety rather than excitement. Instead of looking forward to making memories, I found myself bracing for impact. Would today be the day everything exploded? Would a harmless comment trigger an argument? Would the silent treatment begin? Would the verbal abuse… Read More The Magic Returns

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When Someone Wants Others to Suffer: The Psychology of a Cruel Mind

Most people feel uncomfortable when they see another human being in pain. Empathy tells us to help. Compassion tells us to comfort. Conscience tells us that another person’s suffering matters. But not everyone responds that way. Some people seem to take satisfaction in another person’s misfortune. Others may quietly hope that someone fails, loses everything,… Read More When Someone Wants Others to Suffer: The Psychology of a Cruel Mind

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Before You Ignore a Cry for Help… Think Again

The next message you receive could be from your child. Your sister. Your brother. Your best friend. Your neighbour. Your partner. Your parent. Or someone who has spent weeks building up the courage to ask for help. Please don’t dismiss them. Don’t ridicule them. Don’t tell them to “get over it.” Don’t assume someone else… Read More Before You Ignore a Cry for Help… Think Again

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Why Do Some People Ignore a Cry for Help? The Psychology and Neuroscience Behind It

One of the most painful experiences a person can have is finding the courage to ask for help… only to be ignored. The silence can be deafening. For the person reaching out, it can feel like confirmation that they don’t matter. For the person who ignores them, however, the reasons are often far more psychologically… Read More Why Do Some People Ignore a Cry for Help? The Psychology and Neuroscience Behind It

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When You Reach Out to the Family… and Are Met With Silence or Hostility

One of the most confusing experiences for many people in abusive relationships is finally finding the courage to reach out to their partner’s family, only to be met with silence, denial, insults, or even blame. You hope someone will listen. You hope someone will say, “We had no idea. How can we help?” Instead, your message… Read More When You Reach Out to the Family… and Are Met With Silence or Hostility

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When Family Becomes Fuel Instead of Support: The Psychology of Destructive Interference

When relationships are struggling, many people naturally turn to family or close friends for advice. Support from loved ones can be invaluable. It can provide perspective, comfort, and practical help during difficult times. But not all advice is wise. Sometimes, the loudest voices don’t calm the storm—they become part of it. Instead of encouraging communication,… Read More When Family Becomes Fuel Instead of Support: The Psychology of Destructive Interference

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