Author: Linda C J Turner

Linda CJ Turner Trauma & Relationship Specialist | Neuroscience & Emotional Regulation | Women 45+ | Emotional Abuse & Coercive Control Recovery You survived it. Now it’s time to heal from it.

When Your Success Changes Your Relationships: The Psychology and Neuroscience of Outgrowing Your Old Identity

Success can change the dynamics of relationships, particularly with those who knew you before. Many may struggle to reconcile the new, confident version of you with their past perceptions, leading to criticism or distance. This phenomenon highlights that true friendships thrive on mutual support and understanding of individual growth without insecurity or comparison.… Read More When Your Success Changes Your Relationships: The Psychology and Neuroscience of Outgrowing Your Old Identity

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When a Woman’s Success Becomes a Threat: Female Jealousy, Intimidation and the Psychology of Comparison

Women sometimes feel threatened by each other’s success, confidence, or independence, leading to jealousy that can affect friendships and professional relationships. While jealousy may play a role, many factors like social comparison, self-esteem, and expectations also contribute. Healthy relationships allow mutual support without diminishing individual achievements, recognizing that one woman’s success doesn’t detract from another’s value.… Read More When a Woman’s Success Becomes a Threat: Female Jealousy, Intimidation and the Psychology of Comparison

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Genuine Friendship vs Transactional Friendship: When You’re There for Someone, But They’re Not There for You

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The content explores the complexities of friendships, differentiating between genuine and transactional relationships. It highlights signs of one-sided friendships, the emotional impact when support is not reciprocated, and the importance of mutual respect, honesty, and emotional availability. Ultimately, it emphasizes valuing individuals for who they are rather than what they provide.… Read More Genuine Friendship vs Transactional Friendship: When You’re There for Someone, But They’re Not There for You

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Reading Between the Lines: When People’s Words and Actions Don’t Match

Understanding mixed signals in relationships involves recognizing the discrepancies between what individuals say and how they act. Key issues include manipulation, emotional ambivalence, and recurring behavior patterns that reveal underlying intentions. Distinguishing between isolated incidents and repeated behaviors aids in assessing relationship dynamics and making informed decisions without needing to prove others’ motives.… Read More Reading Between the Lines: When People’s Words and Actions Don’t Match

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Bitterness, vengeance and maliciousness: definitions, characteristics and examples

The content explores three emotional responses: bitterness, vengeance, and maliciousness, particularly following experiences like betrayal or conflict. Bitterness involves persistent resentment, vengeance focuses on retaliation, while maliciousness aims to harm others. Understanding these distinctions aids in trauma therapy and relationship recovery, as emotions can overlap but serve different purposes in healing.… Read More Bitterness, vengeance and maliciousness: definitions, characteristics and examples

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Boundary Theory: Understanding, Establishing and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries

Boundary theory explores how we define, communicate and protect the limits of what we consider acceptable in our relationships, work and personal lives. In emotional wellbeing and trauma recovery, boundaries are particularly important because they help restore autonomy, personal safety, self-respect and trust in our own decisions. 1. The five key principles of boundaries 1. Personal… Read More Boundary Theory: Understanding, Establishing and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries

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When You Announce You’re Seeing a Divorce Lawyer and Your Computer Is Wiped: Control, Retaliation and the Loss of Evidence

Understanding the possible significance of digital interference when a relationship is ending There are moments in a relationship when an apparently ordinary event can reveal something much more significant about the dynamics between two people. Announcing that you have consulted a divorce lawyer can be one of those moments. For someone who has experienced intimidation,… Read More When You Announce You’re Seeing a Divorce Lawyer and Your Computer Is Wiped: Control, Retaliation and the Loss of Evidence

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When the Behaviour You Taught Comes Back to You

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The content discusses how children learn behaviors from their parents, often unconsciously adopting negative patterns such as manipulation, disrespect, or cruelty. It emphasizes the importance of modeling healthy relationship dynamics, as children may later reflect these learned behaviors back onto their parents. The piece urges introspection on what values are being taught through actions, not just words.… Read More When the Behaviour You Taught Comes Back to You

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What Are We Really Teaching Our Children?

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The content discusses the impact of adult behavior on children’s understanding of kindness and relationships. It highlights the contradiction between teaching respect while adults engage in cruel behavior for amusement. The text emphasizes that children learn from adult actions, urging a reflection on how choices can influence their values and treatment of others.… Read More What Are We Really Teaching Our Children?

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