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One of the most frustrating experiences reported by survivors is not only the abuse itself, but the reaction they receive when they finally disclose it. A relative may say: “I doubt he’ll kill you.” “He wouldn’t do that.” “You’re overthinking it.” “Just leave and move on.” Then, when separation or divorce begins, the same relative… Read More I doubt he’ll kill you.
A phenomenon that psychologists sometimes call normalcy bias, optimism bias, and, in some cases, epistemic injustice. When someone finally discloses domestic abuse and hears responses such as: “I doubt he’ll kill you.” “You’ll both meet someone else and move on.” “Every couple argues.” the speaker may think they are being reassuring. However, from a psychological perspective, they may… Read More Epistemic injustice.
The death of Katherine ‘Kat’ Torbick, a 43-year-old nurse and mother from Schaumburg, Illinois. Prosecutors allege that her former boyfriend, Kevin Motykie, subjected her to a prolonged assault that was captured on a recording device found after his arrest. Authorities allege the recording lasted more than seven hours and documented arguments, restraint, violence, and ultimately… Read More Why record it?
Katherine ‘Kat’ Torbick, a 43-year-old nurse and mother from Schaumburg, Illinois. Prosecutors allege that her former boyfriend, Kevin Motykie, subjected her to a prolonged assault that was captured on a recording device found after his arrest. Authorities allege the recording lasted more than seven hours and documented arguments, restraint, violence, and ultimately her death. He has… Read More Seven hour recording
The concept of coercive control is most closely associated with Evan Stark, a sociologist and forensic social worker whose research helped shift understanding of domestic abuse beyond physical violence alone. When Stark described coercive control as a “liberty crime,” he was making the point that the harm is not only the assaults or threats themselves.… Read More Liberty crime
Coercive control is often misunderstood because many people imagine abuse as a series of isolated violent incidents. In reality, coercive control is usually a pattern of domination that gradually strips away a person’s freedom, confidence, independence, and sense of self. 1. The abuse develops gradually The relationship may start with affection, attention, promises, and emotional connection. Control… Read More The abuse develops gradually
This case is currently before the courts, so it is important to distinguish between allegations made by prosecutors and findings that have been proven. According to evidence presented at a trial in Nottingham Crown Court, prosecutors allege that Kimberley Thompson endured years of domestic abuse, including physical violence, coercive control, surveillance, intimidation, and sexual abuse… Read More Husband ‘raped and strangled’ ex-wife before”staging scene’ to look like suicide,
Beauty and cruelty are not simply about appearance. In psychology and neuroscience, the qualities that make someone beautiful “inside and out” are usually linked to empathy, emotional regulation, kindness, integrity, and healthy relationships. Cruelty and sadism are often associated with low empathy, entitlement, hostility, unresolved trauma, personality disorders, or learned patterns of domination and control.… Read More Beautiful Person vs Cruel Person
People often imagine that the decision to leave an unhealthy relationship comes after one dramatic event. In reality, it is often the accumulation of hundreds, even thousands, of moments. A wet towel left on the floor. Dirty clothes scattered around the house. Toenail clippings left where someone else has to clean them up. A toilet… Read More The Moment You Realise You Should Have Left Years Ago
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 