Author: Linda C J Turner

Linda CJ Turner Trauma & Relationship Specialist | Neuroscience & Emotional Regulation | Women 45+ | Emotional Abuse & Coercive Control Recovery You survived it. Now it’s time to heal from it.

When the Social Evidence Appears After the Relationship Ends

The reflection post discusses how a partner’s negative behavior can influence social connections. It reveals that friends may feel uncomfortable around a difficult partner, impacting invitations to social gatherings. After a breakup, the author notices a shift in social dynamics, suggesting that friends valued their company but avoided the partner’s tense presence.… Read More When the Social Evidence Appears After the Relationship Ends

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When People Stop Inviting You: The Social Cost of a Hostile Partner

Sometimes the first sign that something is wrong in a relationship isn’t an argument at home. It is the invitations that slowly stop arriving. The dinner invitations become less frequent. Friends stop suggesting weekends away. People become reluctant to visit. Messages become shorter. Couples who once enjoyed spending time with you together begin inviting one… Read More When People Stop Inviting You: The Social Cost of a Hostile Partner

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When negativity becomes contagious

There is an important opposite side to emotional contagion. A person who is persistently miserable, hostile, withdrawn or never shows warmth can influence the emotional climate around them too. The important qualification is that not smiling does not automatically mean someone is miserable or harmful. Some people naturally have a serious expression, are introverted, depressed, anxious, in… Read More When negativity becomes contagious

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Why a smile can become contagious

A genuine smile conveys warmth and social safety, triggering emotional contagion through facial mimicry. It can shift group dynamics, creating a welcoming atmosphere. Distinguishing between polite and authentic smiles is crucial in human interaction. Smiles also foster positive feelings and connections, illustrating their profound impact on communication and emotional well-being.… Read More Why a smile can become contagious

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The psychology and neuroscience behind “what you do to others leaves a mark”

Our actions influence not only others’ emotional states and behaviors but also reinforce our own neural patterns. Positive behaviors enhance social trust and cooperation, while negative actions can lead to psychological consequences and behavioral patterns. Ultimately, our repeated behaviors shape our identity and the relational environment we inhabit, highlighting the interconnectedness of actions and social dynamics.… Read More The psychology and neuroscience behind “what you do to others leaves a mark”

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The Psychology of a Man Who Has No Ambition, Doesn’t Want to Work and Has Little Desire to Do Anything

The article discusses the crucial difference between individuals who choose a relaxed lifestyle and those displaying a lack of ambition. It explores underlying psychological factors like learned helplessness and entitlement, emphasizing the impact on relationships. Ultimately, it stresses that while ambition isn’t necessary for a fulfilling life, accountability is essential for equitable partnerships.… Read More The Psychology of a Man Who Has No Ambition, Doesn’t Want to Work and Has Little Desire to Do Anything

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The Man Who Chooses to Keep Working: Purpose, Pride and the Psychology of Enjoying Life Beyond Retirement

There is something rather wonderful about a man who continues working beyond retirement age, not because he has to, but because he genuinely wants to. A man who enjoys what he does, takes pride in his work, values his skills and finds satisfaction in a job well done offers an interesting insight into the psychology… Read More The Man Who Chooses to Keep Working: Purpose, Pride and the Psychology of Enjoying Life Beyond Retirement

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The Art of Being a Good Listener

Effective therapy hinges on the therapist’s ability to genuinely listen, distinguishing this from merely hearing. True listening requires patience, curiosity, and emotional regulation, allowing clients to express themselves freely. By practicing reflective listening and creating emotional safety, therapists foster understanding, enabling clients to explore their feelings without judgment.… Read More The Art of Being a Good Listener

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How self-absorption interferes with communication

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Self-absorption hinders effective communication by prioritizing one’s own experiences over others’. It leads to poor listening, defensiveness, and misunderstandings, ultimately creating a cycle of frustration and withdrawal. Healthy communication requires empathy and reciprocity, where both parties feel understood, rather than one dominating the conversation.… Read More How self-absorption interferes with communication

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Grace, Courtesy and Cruelty: How the Way We Treat People Affects the Mind

In a world that can sometimes feel increasingly impatient, competitive and divided, grace and courtesy are not signs of weakness. They are forms of emotional maturity and social responsibility. A kind word, a little patience, listening without interrupting, showing consideration and treating another person with dignity can have a profound effect on how safe and valued… Read More Grace, Courtesy and Cruelty: How the Way We Treat People Affects the Mind

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