When money becomes the focus of nearly every conversation, it often reflects something deeper than simple curiosity about finances. There can be several psychological reasons: Security and Survival For some people, money represents safety. If they grew up with financial insecurity, they may constantly assess what things cost, what people earn, and who owns what… Read More Social Comparison
A pattern of judgment, projection, and hypocrisy. When someone says things like “she was never a Samaritan, she was just a gold digger” why would she be interested in someone 25 years her senior? Without evidence, several psychological processes can be at work: Projection People sometimes attribute motives to others that reflect their own way of thinking.… Read More A pattern of judgment, projection, and hypocrisy.
You see an old photograph. A beautiful beach. A mountain village. A bustling city square. A restaurant overlooking the sea. For a moment, your mind remembers the sunshine, the laughter, the excitement of discovering somewhere new. You find yourself talking to a friend about that special place, recalling the scenery, the food, the experience. Then,… Read More When the Mind Plays Tricks: Revisiting Places, Reclaiming Memories
On This Day You have 33 posts from this day, May 30. 🌷 2025 🌊 Back to Me View • 🌿 You Are Not Responsible for Their Misery View • 💔 When You Love Someone Who Is Miserable All the Time View • 💔 The Slow Burn of Meanness in Long-Term Relationships View • 🧨 Definition of Cruelty in a Long-Term Relationship View • 🌊 Just… Read More Older posts from May 30th
As I reflect on the last eighteen months, one word keeps coming to mind: gratitude. Not because the journey has been easy. It hasn’t. Not because every person I encountered treated me with kindness. They didn’t. But because every experience, every challenge, every disappointment, and every act of support revealed something important. I am grateful to… Read More Gratitude for the Lessons
There are moments in life when you look around and realise that, despite everything that has happened, you have made it through. This week was one of those moments for me. It was a week filled with simple pleasures and meaningful connections. Meals out at some wonderful restaurants, long conversations with friends, neighbours and special… Read More Living the Dream at Last: Eighteen Months of Letting Go and Moving Forward
The Garage Full of Fishing Rods Nearly two years. Nearly two years of waiting for someone to collect the life they left behind. The cupboards.The drawers.The forgotten paperwork.The random cables nobody understands.The clothes still hanging exactly where they were abandoned.And, of course, the garage. Ah yes… the garage. A shrine to fishing. Enough rods, reels,… Read More Reinventing Yourself
Sometimes healing does not arrive all at once in one dramatic life-changing moment. Sometimes it arrives quietly. In small realisations.In moments of peace.In noticing what still remains good even after difficult chapters. And lately, I have found myself feeling grateful. Grateful for the possibility of a new home soon — a new space, a new… Read More Gratitude in the Middle of New Beginnings
One of the biggest mistakes some abusers make is believing that once a restraining order ends, everything simply “resets” and they are free to continue old patterns of intimidation, harassment, stalking, manipulation, or unwanted contact. They could not be more wrong. What has been made very clear to me is this: protection does not suddenly… Read More Protection Does Not Expire When Abuse Does
There is a strange kind of relief that comes when you realise safety does not end at the front door of one particular house. For a long time, “home” stopped feeling like a place of peace. It became somewhere filled with tension, uncertainty, hypervigilance, and the exhausting emotional mathematics of constantly assessing moods, reactions, and… Read More Good to Know the Guardia Civil Will Still Be Protecting Me When I Move Home
