Healing is a holistic and dynamic process that involves the restoration of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being after experiencing challenges, trauma, or distress. Healing is not just the absence of symptoms; it encompasses a journey toward overall wellness and a sense of wholeness. The path to healing is unique for each individual and may involve a combination of self-care practices, professional support, and personal growth.
When someone appears to move on quickly, enters a new relationship, and then crashes emotionally later, it often means the original grief was delayed, bypassed, or anaesthetised — not resolved. Psychologically, this is very common. 🧠 What happens in the beginning? At first, a new relationship can feel like relief. It provides: The brain experiences a temporary reward… Read More At first, a new relationship can feel like relief
It’s a common belief that “men move on faster than women” or that men often replace one relationship with another immediately (sometimes even overlapping) — but psychology and neuroscience suggest the answer is more nuanced. The short answer: it’s partly a myth, partly a difference in coping style. 🧠 Do men really move on faster? Not necessarily. Research often shows that:… Read More 🧠 Do men really move on faster?
A rebound relationship is not automatically unhealthy. Sometimes people genuinely move on quickly. But sometimes a new relationship is being used — consciously or unconsciously — to avoid emotional pain rather than process it. Psychologically, the question is not:“How soon did they date?” It is:“What function is this new relationship serving?” 🧠 The neuroscience of rebound relationships After a… Read More On the Rebound: What Are the Signs? (Psychology & Neuroscience)
When someone looks away, avoids eye contact, or struggles to maintain eye contact when talking about their past or past relationships, it can mean many things — and neuroscience reminds us not to jump to conclusions. It is not automatically “lying” or “hiding.” Often, it is about nervous system activation. 🧠 The neuroscience of looking away Eye… Read More Avoiding Eye Contact
Abuse is not a “two versions of reality” situation in any meaningful moral sense.Whatever cognitive or emotional narratives people build afterwards, abuse is defined by behaviour and its impact, not by interpretation. ⚖️ The important distinction 1. Abuse is behaviour-based, not perception-based In psychology and law, abuse is identified through patterns of actions, such as: Those things… Read More Abuse is not a “two versions of reality”
This is one of the most interesting findings in psychology: two people can live through the same relationship and walk away with completely different “truths” about it. Not because one is necessarily lying—but because the brain doesn’t store relationships as facts. It stores them as interpreted emotional experiences. 🧠 Why two people build opposite narratives 1. Different… Read More Different Truths
The distinction matters a lot because the behaviour can look identical on the surface, but the internal state and relationship outcome are very different. Here’s how psychology typically separates them: 1) Healthy “needing space” This is self-regulation after closeness, not rejection. Internal state Nervous system pattern Prefrontal CortexThe thinking brain stays online, so the person can still hold… Read More Self-regulation after closeness
When someone withdraws after intense sex, psychology usually treats it less as “self-destruction” and more as a post-intimacy nervous system shift. It can look sudden, but there are several well-studied mechanisms behind it. 1. Nervous system “drop” after high arousal Sex—especially intense or emotionally charged sex—activates strong arousal systems in the brain (dopamine, adrenaline, oxytocin). After… Read More Post-intimacy nervous system shift
In relationships, the “self-destruct button” usually shows up as a very specific pattern: things are going well, then suddenly something inside flips and you either pull away, create conflict, or emotionally shut down. In neuroscience and psychology, this isn’t random—it’s a predictable stress response shaped by learning, attachment, and threat processing. What’s happening in the brain… Read More Self-destruct button
AmygdalaYour amygdala is your brain’s alarm system. If something feels emotionally threatening (rejection, intimacy, success, failure), it can trigger fight, flight, freeze, or fawn — even when there’s no actual danger. Example: things are going well in a relationship → suddenly you pick a fight or pull away. Prefrontal CortexThis is your “wise adult” brain — logic,… Read More The neuroscience of self-destruction
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 