Category: WOMEN 45+

Women 45+
Supporting women through the changes, challenges and transitions that can come with midlife and beyond. Explore relationships, identity, confidence, emotional wellbeing, trauma recovery, boundaries and rediscovering a sense of purpose, freedom and fulfilment.

Genuine Friendship vs Transactional Friendship: When You’re There for Someone, But They’re Not There for You

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The content explores the complexities of friendships, differentiating between genuine and transactional relationships. It highlights signs of one-sided friendships, the emotional impact when support is not reciprocated, and the importance of mutual respect, honesty, and emotional availability. Ultimately, it emphasizes valuing individuals for who they are rather than what they provide.… Read More Genuine Friendship vs Transactional Friendship: When You’re There for Someone, But They’re Not There for You

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Reading Between the Lines: When People’s Words and Actions Don’t Match

Understanding mixed signals in relationships involves recognizing the discrepancies between what individuals say and how they act. Key issues include manipulation, emotional ambivalence, and recurring behavior patterns that reveal underlying intentions. Distinguishing between isolated incidents and repeated behaviors aids in assessing relationship dynamics and making informed decisions without needing to prove others’ motives.… Read More Reading Between the Lines: When People’s Words and Actions Don’t Match

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Bitterness, vengeance and maliciousness: definitions, characteristics and examples

The content explores three emotional responses: bitterness, vengeance, and maliciousness, particularly following experiences like betrayal or conflict. Bitterness involves persistent resentment, vengeance focuses on retaliation, while maliciousness aims to harm others. Understanding these distinctions aids in trauma therapy and relationship recovery, as emotions can overlap but serve different purposes in healing.… Read More Bitterness, vengeance and maliciousness: definitions, characteristics and examples

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Traditional/standard therapy versus Our bespoke approach

The content compares traditional therapy to a bespoke approach, emphasizing individualized treatment. While standard therapy adheres to a fixed structure, the bespoke model tailors sessions to the client’s needs, incorporating personalized resources and extended support between appointments. This method fosters continuous learning and reflection, creating a more meaningful therapeutic journey.… Read More Traditional/standard therapy versus Our bespoke approach

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“A Turner Is Never Wrong” — Except, Apparently, When It Comes to Me

The content explores the psychological dynamics of double standards in relationships, highlighting how one partner may consistently be blamed or invalidated while the other is not. This unequal treatment can lead to feelings of inadequacy, defensiveness, and emotional exhaustion. The text emphasizes the importance of mutual respect and the ability to admit mistakes for healthy interactions.… Read More “A Turner Is Never Wrong” — Except, Apparently, When It Comes to Me

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Hands Up: I Wasn’t Actually Looking for a Boyfriend — I Was Looking for My Children

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The lengths a mother will go to when she hasn’t seen her children for two years I have a confession to make. Looking back, I have to laugh. When I got together with my ex, there was a very important detail he apparently failed to notice. I wasn’t actually there because I was particularly interested… Read More Hands Up: I Wasn’t Actually Looking for a Boyfriend — I Was Looking for My Children

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Secondary Gains in Trauma Treatment: Understanding the Hidden Benefits of Staying Stuck

Secondary gains refer to the indirect benefits someone may experience from trauma, such as avoiding responsibilities or receiving support, which can complicate recovery. While these behaviors may seem beneficial, they often stem from a need for safety or emotional relief rather than manipulation. Therapy should focus on understanding the underlying needs these behaviors fulfill to promote healthy changes.… Read More Secondary Gains in Trauma Treatment: Understanding the Hidden Benefits of Staying Stuck

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When You Wake Up Still Trying to Escape: The Neuroscience of Dreams After Emotional Abuse

Dreams of abusive ex-partners can evoke panic and feelings of helplessness, often mirroring past trauma of entrapment and emotional abuse. These nightmares reflect the brain’s processing of danger and the lingering impact of coercive control. While waking reality differs, persistent fear may signify unresolved emotional connections, necessitating compassionate self-reassurance and potentially seeking therapeutic help.… Read More When You Wake Up Still Trying to Escape: The Neuroscience of Dreams After Emotional Abuse

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When Recovery Begins: The Moment the Pattern Becomes Clear

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Recovery often begins long before a person leaves a difficult relationship. It begins with a change in perspective. Many survivors describe a moment when years of confusion suddenly start to make sense. It may happen after a conversation with a trusted friend, reading an article, speaking with a counsellor, or simply noticing that the same… Read More When Recovery Begins: The Moment the Pattern Becomes Clear

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The Wedding Was Quick. The Control Lasted Thirty-Two Years.

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

People look at the wedding photograph and ask the same question. “Why the rush?” Why a whirlwind wedding in Las Vegas? Why get married just before moving to France? Why sell your own secure home which took years to buy, give-up a successful career, financial independence, family and lifelong friends so quickly? For years, I… Read More The Wedding Was Quick. The Control Lasted Thirty-Two Years.

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