Sorting through old paperwork before my move home has been like opening a time capsule. Some documents bring back happy memories; others remind me of moments I had almost forgotten. One paper in particular took me straight back to a night that now seems almost unbelievable. After spending six hours at the Guardia Civil giving… Read More 18 months on
Abuse rarely exists in isolation. It thrives in secrecy, denial, and the unspoken rules that keep families trapped in harmful patterns. Across generations, the effects of abuse can ripple through families, shaping relationships, influencing behaviours, and leaving emotional wounds that may persist for decades. Many families carry painful histories that are never openly discussed. Children… Read More Breaking the Cycle: Confronting Abuse, Ending Silence, and Creating a Better Future
One of the most difficult emotions for survivors of childhood abuse to talk about is the desire to see an abusive parent suffer. Society expects children to love, forgive, and honour their parents, no matter what happened behind closed doors. As a result, many adult survivors carry feelings of anger, resentment, and even thoughts of… Read More When the Wounded Child Wants the Parent to Suffer
Thailand was only Plan A. When that failed after six weeks and the money ran out, there was already talk of another warm destination for the winter. People with a mercenary mindset often follow the same playbook. The locations change, but the thinking doesn’t—always calculating the next move, the next advantage, the next person or… Read More Revenge
In many investigations, digital forensic analysis begins with a specific concern or allegation. However, once phones, computers, and online accounts are examined within a lawful scope, they can sometimes reveal a broader pattern of behaviour than was initially being investigated. This is because modern digital communication is highly interconnected, with messages, backups, social media activity,… Read More When Digital Forensics Reveals More Than Expected
Forensic psychologists can examine phone and computer data, but there’s an important distinction in howand what part they handle. 1. What forensic psychologists actually do A forensic psychologist typically focuses on the psychological interpretation of digital evidence, such as: Messaging patterns (texts, WhatsApp, social media) Emails and written communications Search history (behavioural patterns) Tone, intent, escalation of behaviour over time… Read More Forensics
Abuse is not limited by relationship, gender, or circumstance. It is rooted in power, control, and entitlement. Whether directed at a partner, a child, an animal, or anyone perceived as vulnerable, the pattern is the same: domination and harm. Abusive behaviour does not exist in isolation. It spreads through households, relationships, and environments—sometimes directly, sometimes… Read More Abuse is Abuse
Understanding the Overlap Between Intimate Partner Violence and Harm to Children Domestic abuse and child abuse are often discussed as separate issues. In reality, they frequently exist within the same household and can be driven by the same underlying patterns of coercion, control, and entitlement. Research consistently shows that while not every person who abuses… Read More When Domestic Abuse Crosses Into Child Abuse
There are moments when you have to step back—not to avoid the truth, but to see it clearly. When emotions are tangled in the situation, everything can feel immediate, urgent, and personal. But clarity doesn’t always live inside that intensity. Sometimes you need distance from it to understand what’s actually going on, rather than what… Read More Sorting my own sh** out first
