It’s a beautiful life… when you are finally with the right people. It took me decades to get here. Decades of abuse. Trauma. People-pleasing. Manipulation. Control — not just from one person, but reinforced, witnessed, and enabled by an entire system around me. There were always warnings. Subtle. Then not so subtle. “Wait and see… Read More It’s a beautiful life
For decades, your brain adapted to one kind of environment… and now it’s finally experiencing something different: safety, connection, and ease. Let’s break down what’s happening 👇 🧠 1. Your brain is recalibrating “what is normal” If you’ve spent years in environments where there was: tension unpredictability emotional inconsistency your brain wires that as baseline… Read More Real and Normal
relatives of an abuser stalking your social media two years later—can be unsettling, confusing, and even feel threatening. Neuroscience and psychology give us some insight into why this might happen and what it does to your brain. Let’s break it down carefully. 1️⃣ Why this may be happening Even after a relationship ends, especially an… Read More Stalkers
There are certain dates that arrive quietly each year, yet carry the weight of transformation. April 5 is one of those days for me. One year ago today, something shifted. Not dramatically, not loudly—but deeply. It was the day I realised that happiness had not left me. It had simply been waiting… patiently, gently… for… Read More April 5 — The Day I Found Myself Again
Surrounded by love, laughter, and a family who show up with kindness, generosity, and real warmth—no conditions, no pretence… just truth. Here’s the shift:Living well isn’t about chasing more.It’s about recognising when you already have it. I feel it.Grateful. Grounded. Fully alive. When your circle is right, everything elevates—your energy, your peace, your standards. This… Read More This weekend? Pure goddess energy. ✨
Grateful for the kind of love that feels like home.For family. For laughter that fills the room.For kindness that asks for nothing back.For generosity of spirit.For gentleness in a hard world.For truth, always.For honesty, even when it’s not easy. This is the real wealth 🤍
Neuroscience shows that staying with an abuser isn’t just a matter of “weakness” or “poor choice”—the brain is literally being rewired in ways that make it extremely difficult to leave. Here’s a breakdown: 🧠 1. Trauma Bonding Abusers often alternate kindness and cruelty, creating intermittent reinforcement. The brain releases dopamine (reward) during positive moments, and stress… Read More Bad choices
From a neuroscience and psychological perspective, people who live with someone who is still married are often operating under a mix of emotional reward loops, cognitive bias, and attachment wiring. Here’s what’s really happening in the brain: 🧠 1. Intermittent Reward = Addiction-Like Bonding When someone is emotionally or physically available sometimes but not fully (because… Read More Still married
Individualisation is the process of becoming your own distinct, fully formed person—separate from expectations, roles, and conditioning. It’s used in a few key ways depending on context: 🧠 In psychology The term is most strongly associated with Carl Jung. For Jung, individuation (often used interchangeably with individualisation) is: The lifelong process of integrating all parts… Read More Individualisation
1. The brain bonds before it evaluates Through something called Attachment Theory, once you emotionally attach, your brain starts prioritising keeping the connection over questioning it. So instead of asking “is this fair?” your mind quietly shifts to “how do I make this work?” 2. Intermittent reward keeps you hooked This is a powerful mechanism… Read More Attachment Theory
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 