People who cover up or protect abusive behaviour often do so for a variety of reasons, including denial, loyalty, fear, or a lack of understanding of what abuse actually looks like. In many cases, they may not recognise the seriousness of the situation, or they may prioritise maintaining relationships or avoiding conflict over acknowledging harm.… Read More Protecting Abusers
Estimado/a [Nombre / Organizador del evento]: Me dirijo a usted en relación con comunicaciones previas sobre mi asistencia a [nombre del evento]. Por la presente, le informo formalmente de que existe una orden de alejamiento en vigor contra [nombre de la persona], dictada por un juzgado español. De acuerdo con la legislación española, en particular los artículos… Read More Outline Letter
Here is a clear, practical explanation of your legal rights in Spain when you have a restraining order (“orden de alejamiento”), especially in situations like public events: ⚖️ Your Legal Position (Spain) If you have a restraining order against someone: 👉 You are the protected person👉 They are the restricted person This is fundamental. 🚫 What the other person… Read More ⚖️ Your Legal Position (Spain)
If you have a restraining order (“orden de alejamiento”) against your ex, the responsibility is on him to stay away from you—not the other way around. ⚖️ What the law in Spain says A restraining order means: 👉 If he attends an event knowing you will be there, he is at risk of breaching the order. 🚫 Being prevented from attending… Read More You should not be the one excluded or prevented from attending.
Here’s how it works in simple terms: 🚨 If a restraining order is breached A restraining order (“orden de alejamiento”) is a legal protection, not a suggestion. If the person: 👉 This is a criminal offence in Spain. Even being in the same public place knowingly can count as a breach. 👮♂️ What happens in public places? If people around ignore… Read More Guardia Civil can and should get involved if a restraining order is being ignored, especially in a public place.
Even when there are restraining orders, criminal charges, or clear evidence of domestic abuse, some people still defend or minimise the abuser’s behaviour. This can feel shocking, especially to someone who knows the truth. 1. Psychological denial People sometimes go into denial because the reality is too uncomfortable to accept. If the abuser is: …then accepting… Read More Why do people protect an abuser?
In everyday life, it is common to encounter people who form strong opinions about situations they do not fully understand. Sometimes these individuals may appear highly confident in their views, yet lack awareness of the complexity behind other people’s experiences. This can lead to judgement, assumptions, or interference in matters that are not fully known.… Read More Understanding Judgement and Misunderstanding in Human Behaviour
It is easy for people to point fingers when they do not know the full story. But what often looks like “moving away from family” is sometimes the result of something much deeper—manipulation, coercion, and emotional control. When isolation is not a choice In some situations, people are gradually influenced or pressured into distancing themselves… Read More Don’t Judge What You Don’t Understand
Pay attention to this. If a partner tries to reduce your contact with your family, that is not love—that is control. 🚩 Warning signs include: This is not normal relationship behaviour. 🧠 The truth people forget Every family has imperfections. Every single one. No one has the right to judge your family or demand you… Read More RED FLAGS: When a Partner Tries to Isolate You From Your Family
Sometimes in life, we are never quite sure how long we have. That simple truth changes how we should value our time and the people in it. With growing grandchildren, changing locations, work pressures, and all of life’s unexpected challenges, it becomes even clearer: family is everything. The Importance of Family Connection As life moves… Read More Life is Short: Why Family Comes First
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 