A Delayed House Sale Is Frustrating. A Delayed Divorce Is Something Else Entirely.

People often ask how I’m coping with yet another delay. The truth is, the delayed house sale is frustrating, but I can cope with that. The delayed divorce is another matter entirely. A house is bricks and mortar. It represents money, paperwork, and practical decisions. Of course, delays are stressful, especially when you’re trying to… Read More A Delayed House Sale Is Frustrating. A Delayed Divorce Is Something Else Entirely.

July 17, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

Why Some Men Wait Until the Divorce Is Final Before Making Their Move

Not every man is comfortable starting a new relationship with someone who is still legally married. For many, it isn’t about a lack of interest—it’s about respecting boundaries. Some men want the reassurance that the past has been fully closed before investing emotionally in the future. They don’t want to become involved in legal complications,… Read More Why Some Men Wait Until the Divorce Is Final Before Making Their Move

July 14, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

History of abuse

Looking at someone’s social media presence and the people connected to them can sometimes provide useful context, but it’s important to recognize its limits. Social media often reflects a curated version of someone’s life, and you can’t reliably infer abuse or criminal behavior from associations alone. If you’re trying to understand whether someone may have… Read More History of abuse

July 12, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

Checking them out

In many countries, there is no public database that lets you search another person’s history, but there are schemes that allow people at risk to ask police for relevant information. For example: You can also: If your concern is about someone you are dating, and you’re worried about your safety, it’s worth paying close attention… Read More Checking them out

July 12, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

Oscar Wilde

Oscar Wilde: “Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.”

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The Backup Drive: Recovering More Than Files

When I recovered the backup drive after the computer had been wiped, I wasn’t simply recovering digital files. I was recovering part of my own history. For years, I had kept documents, photographs, correspondence, and records that helped me make sense of what I had lived through. Some of those files became important evidence during… Read More The Backup Drive: Recovering More Than Files

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Waiting for the Final Chapter Before I Write the Next One

People often ask me when I’m going to write my book. My answer is always the same. I’m waiting for the divorce to be finalised. For a long time, I simply wasn’t ready to write it. After decades of living with abuse, my priority wasn’t telling my story—it was healing from it. Trauma recovery takes… Read More Waiting for the Final Chapter Before I Write the Next One

July 12, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

“You Look Different”: The Neuroscience of Finally Feeling Safe

One of the most unexpected parts of healing has not been what I see in myself, but what other people see in me. Recently, friends, family, and even people I haven’t seen for a while have been making similar comments. “You look so much more relaxed.” “You seem more confident.” “You’re glowing.” “You smile so… Read More “You Look Different”: The Neuroscience of Finally Feeling Safe

July 12, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

“He Never Wanted Me to Be Happy”: The Psychology and Neuroscience Behind This Behaviour

During a conversation this morning, someone said something that resonated deeply with me: “He never wanted you to be happy. He was so miserable with his own life and himself long before he met you that he was determined to destroy any happiness you experienced.” Whether or not we can ever know another person’s true… Read More “He Never Wanted Me to Be Happy”: The Psychology and Neuroscience Behind This Behaviour

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When Abuse Is Minimized: The Hidden Psychological Harm

Trauma can leave survivors questioning their own memories, doubting their judgement, and wondering whether what they experienced was “bad enough” to matter. This self-doubt is often the result of years of gaslighting, manipulation, and coercive control, where the perpetrator repeatedly distorts reality until the survivor begins to mistrust their own thoughts, feelings, and experiences. The psychological… Read More When Abuse Is Minimized: The Hidden Psychological Harm

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