Category: ABUSE, VIOLENCE & DISCLOSURE

When Someone Has a History of Violence: Disclosure, Accountability and Safety

🕳️ The Hidden Hands of Cowards: When They Get Others to Do Their Dirty Work

Some people wage war without ever lifting a finger. They don’t raise their voice, leave threatening voicemails, or appear in court themselves. No. They stay hidden—clean, composed, and conveniently “uninvolved”—while others act out their cruelty. These people weaponize others to do their dirty work for them. Whether it’s a flying monkey from the family, a loyal friend-turned-bully,… Read More 🕳️ The Hidden Hands of Cowards: When They Get Others to Do Their Dirty Work

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🩸 What Is Sadism?

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Sadism is the act (or desire) of deriving pleasure from another person’s suffering — emotionally, psychologically, or physically. The term comes from the 18th-century French writer Marquis de Sade, who wrote about sexual pleasure linked with cruelty and degradation. But not all sadists are overt or sexual. Some use subtle emotional or social tactics to harm and humiliate others, all while… Read More 🩸 What Is Sadism?

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Repeated Mercenary Behaviour

What you’re describing is very real, very deliberate, and disturbingly common. In high-conflict divorces—especially where one party has narcissistic or controlling tendencies—tactics like harassment, bullying, and even vandalism are not just random acts of cruelty. They are strategic psychological warfare. The goal? To destabilize, deplete, and eventually break down the other party so severely that they will settle for less—less… Read More Repeated Mercenary Behaviour

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💬 Should You Disclose Mental Health Disorders in a Relationship?

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

A psychological and neurological look at truth, trust, and safety in love. There’s no easy answer.Disclosing a diagnosis like psychosis, schizophrenia, antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), or other stigmatized conditions is a deeply personal decision. It can feel terrifying. Vulnerable. Risky.But it can also be freeing. Humanizing. Even life-changing. So… should you disclose?Let’s explore the why, when, and how — from both… Read More 💬 Should You Disclose Mental Health Disorders in a Relationship?

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Once an Abuser, Always an Abuser(Say it again if you need to.)

Don’t expect kindness.Don’t expect fairness.Don’t expect change — especially not during a divorce — from someone who’s spent decades trying to control, diminish, and destroy you. When someone tries to strangle you, break your arm, trap you financially, gaslight you emotionally, humiliate you in front of others —that’s not a “bad patch” or “temper.”That’s abuse.Repeated, calculated,… Read More Once an Abuser, Always an Abuser(Say it again if you need to.)

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Uncovering hidden truths

Uncovering hidden truths — whether about your partner, yourself, or your past — during a separation from an abusive marriage can feel like your entire reality is being rewritten. It’s often described as a kind of emotional whiplash or “truth tsunami.” These discoveries are not just intellectually unsettling — they cause deep psychological and neurological changes, especially after a long-term… Read More Uncovering hidden truths

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The Hidden Cost of Living a Double Life: Psychological, Neurological, and Legal Perspectives

In a world that often demands conformity while privately rewarding deception, many individuals find themselves leading a double life — concealing parts of who they are, what they do, or whom they love. Whether it’s secret relationships, hidden addictions, concealed identities, or living under a false persona to maintain control or avoid consequences — the act of… Read More The Hidden Cost of Living a Double Life: Psychological, Neurological, and Legal Perspectives

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🧠 Inside the Mind of an Abuser: What Neuroscience and Psychology Reveal

Why they abuse, what makes them tick, and the science behind it all. One of the most haunting questions survivors ask is:“Why did they do it?” What makes someone so controlling, cruel, or emotionally manipulative—especially when they seemed so charming at first? The truth is, abuse is not a momentary loss of control—it’s a repeated choice… Read More 🧠 Inside the Mind of an Abuser: What Neuroscience and Psychology Reveal

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When Peace is Shattered: The Hidden Scars of Public Arguments

A peaceful Sunday can quickly take a turn when a heated argument erupts nearby. The shouting, accusations, and rising tension can be unsettling for anyone—but for those who’ve experienced abusive relationships, it can trigger something far deeper. The All-Too-Familiar Scene Hearing one partner yell, “Come inside, the neighbors can hear!” may seem like an attempt… Read More When Peace is Shattered: The Hidden Scars of Public Arguments

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Mixed Messages: The Hidden Meaning Behind Love Notes from Abusers

Abusers often employ confusing tactics that keep their victims emotionally tethered. One such behavior is leaving love notes or letters for you when you’re away—small tokens of affection meant to evoke feelings of love and attachment. However, upon your return, these gestures are often contradicted by anger, criticism, or abuse. Why Do They Do This?… Read More Mixed Messages: The Hidden Meaning Behind Love Notes from Abusers

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