Category: ABUSE, VIOLENCE & DISCLOSURE

When Someone Has a History of Violence: Disclosure, Accountability and Safety

Harassment or bullying by an abuser’s family when there is a restraining order in place is taken very seriously.

Here’s the clear, grounded breakdown — legally and practically. 1. Core rule (this matters most) A restraining order cannot be bypassed through family, friends, or third parties. If the family: Contacts you Pressures you Harasses you Passes messages Intimidates or humiliates you Acts “on behalf of” the restrained person 👉 This may constitute a breach of… Read More Harassment or bullying by an abuser’s family when there is a restraining order in place is taken very seriously.

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Harassing someone with PTSD who is already dealing with domestic violence

Plain truth Harassing a person who is known (or should reasonably be known) to have PTSD and is escaping or recovering from domestic violence is not “just harassment”.It is an aggravating form of psychological abuse. It compounds trauma and recreates the dynamics of coercive control. Why this is treated more seriously 1. Foreseeable harm When someone: Knows you’ve experienced… Read More Harassing someone with PTSD who is already dealing with domestic violence

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Families who hide domestic violence

This is a real, documented problem, and it tends to surface most clearly after serious harm or homicide, when people start asking why no one knew. Here’s how families covering up domestic violence and the use (or misuse) of gagging mechanisms typically works — and why it’s so dangerous. 1. How families help hide domestic violence In many cases, abuse… Read More Families who hide domestic violence

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Abuse control and violence

Abuse control and violence Abuse is a pattern, not an incident.It is the systematic use of power to dominate, diminish, or destabilise another person. Abuse can be: Psychological (gaslighting, intimidation, humiliation) Emotional (withholding affection, silent treatment, threats of abandonment) Financial (restriction of access to money, sabotaging independence) Social (isolation from friends, family, or support systems) Legal/administrative (misuse of courts, false narratives, vexatious… Read More Abuse control and violence

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The Hidden Dangers of Dating Apps: Con Men, Pretenders, and Emotional Fraud

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Dating apps aren’t inherently bad — but they are highly efficient environments for deception. They allow people to present a carefully curated version of themselves with very little accountability, history, or social consequence. And that creates opportunity — not just for romance, but for manipulation. Who Thrives on Dating Apps (and Why) Dating apps are especially attractive… Read More The Hidden Dangers of Dating Apps: Con Men, Pretenders, and Emotional Fraud

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Holiday Travel Safety for Survivors of Domestic Violence in Spain

The holiday season can be a high-risk time for survivors of domestic abuse. If you’re planning to travel outside Spain, it’s important to take precautions — even if you already have protection measures in place through the VIOGEN system. 1. Notify the Authorities Before You Travel The VIOGEN system only works within Spain, so you must… Read More Holiday Travel Safety for Survivors of Domestic Violence in Spain

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Finding a Safe Place for Christmas: Holiday Safety Tips for Survivors of Domestic Violence

The holiday season can be a high-risk time for survivors of domestic abuse. Many domestic violence centres report an escalation in threats or controlling behaviours during holidays, including inquiries about your whereabouts. Here’s what you can do to stay safe: Plan a safe location for the holidays — consider trusted friends, shelters, or domestic violence centres. Inform authorities:… Read More Finding a Safe Place for Christmas: Holiday Safety Tips for Survivors of Domestic Violence

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Why Domestic Violence — and the Court Process — Takes Such a Heavy Toll on the Mind and Body

People think the trauma ends when you leave.But anyone who has lived it knows: the legal process can feel like Round Two.It’s not just stressful — it’s biologically exhausting. 1. Living in Survival Mode Damages the Nervous System Domestic abuse keeps your brain in a chronic fight-or-flight state.The amygdala becomes overactive.The nervous system stays hyper-alert.Cortisol floods your… Read More Why Domestic Violence — and the Court Process — Takes Such a Heavy Toll on the Mind and Body

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Violence and Abuse Often Escalate at Christmas — Stay Vigilant

People don’t like to talk about it, but it’s the truth:violence and abuse often escalate during the holiday season. Stress, alcohol, financial pressure, entitlement, loss of routine, family gatherings — all of these can inflame an abuser’s behaviour. And many abusers deliberately “up their game” at Christmas to cause maximum emotional impact. After 32 Christmases of abuse, I… Read More Violence and Abuse Often Escalate at Christmas — Stay Vigilant

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