Age-gap relationships are becoming more common off-screen, too For decades, Hollywood had a very clear idea of what an age-gap relationship was supposed to look like. The man was older. The woman was younger. And nobody seemed particularly surprised. Older male actors could continue playing romantic leads well into their 60s, 70s and beyond, often… Read More Hollywood’s Latest Obsession: Older Women and Younger Men
My first marriage began with very little. We started from nothing and built our life together. And that distinction matters. There is something incredibly satisfying about building a life with someone when you both start with very little. You work, you save, you make decisions together and, slowly, you create something that belongs to both… Read More When Luxury Becomes Something You Are Taught to Feel Guilty For
For a long time, I wondered where all my contributions had gone. Not just the money. My work.My energy.My sacrifices.My time.My ideas.My emotional labour.My contribution to the household and the life we had built together. I was not raised in poverty, and I was certainly not raised to believe that deprivation was a virtue. I… Read More Where Did My Contributions Go?
My home may be small, but it is beautifully formed. Every room has its own little view, its own feeling, and its own beauty. After everything I’ve been through, I don’t take any of this for granted. I wake up grateful for the home I have created, the location, the views, the peace, and the… Read More So many beautiful views from almost every room… how lucky I am. ❤️
There is a point in some relationships when a woman stops explaining. Not because she suddenly stopped caring. Not because she found someone else. Not because she wants you to chase her. And certainly not because she has become cold. Sometimes, her silence is what happens when she has finally run out of words. She… Read More When She Goes Silent: The Woman Who Finally Stopped Trying
Last night, I sat on my roof terrace with a glass of wine, some delicious Belgian chocolates bought for me by two lovely friends, and one of the most beautiful views I could imagine. I looked across at the house where I used to live. And I found myself asking a very simple question: “What… Read More Everything Comes to Those Who Wait
One of the simplest ways to get ahead in life is to become the person people are glad to deal with. Not because you say yes to everything. Not because you allow people to walk all over you. And certainly not because you abandon your boundaries. Being easy to deal with means being pleasant, respectful, reasonable and… Read More Be Easy to Deal With
From a neuroscience perspective, abuse involves changes in the brain and nervous system of both the person being abused and, potentially, the person carrying out the abuse—but we have to be careful not to suggest that there is a single “abuser brain.” People become abusive through complex interactions among learning, personality, emotion regulation, beliefs, environment and… Read More What can happen in the abuser’s brain during abusive behaviour?
What an abuser may experience psychologically while they are insulting, threatening or physically intimidating someone, there isn’t one universal emotional response. But certain patterns are commonly associated with abusive behaviour. One important distinction is that abuse isn’t necessarily about losing control. In many situations, intimidation is actually being used to gain control. And that leads to a… Read More Anger and entitlement
One of the most difficult things to explain about abuse is how quickly it can change a person’s sense of themselves. It can happen in minutes. A person who was confident, capable and independent can suddenly find themselves frightened, confused, humiliated and desperately trying to make sense of what is happening. It isn’t because they… Read More How an Abuser Can Make You Feel Like Nothing
Trauma • Neuroscience • Emotional Intelligence • Women's Empowerment 