At the beginning of the relationship, I listened with sympathy. I heard endless stories about the previous partner. According to them, she was the problem. She was “crazy.” She was violent. She stole from him. She hit him. She tried to force him out of the house. She was unintelligent. She was lazy. She was… Read More Looking Back, I Realise They Were Stories
One of the biggest mistakes people make in a new relationship is focusing only on how someone treats them. In the early stages, many people are on their best behaviour. Instead, widen the lens. Look at the quality of their relationships with the people who have known them the longest. While no single factor proves someone… Read More Look Beyond How They Treat You—Look at How They Live
One of the questions I am asked most often is: “How can I spot an abuser before I become emotionally invested?” The truth is that many abusive people do not reveal who they really are on the first date. If they did, very few people would choose to continue the relationship. Instead, abuse often begins… Read More Can You Recognise an Abuser Before You Enter a Relationship?
One of the most painful experiences for survivors of domestic abuse is hearing someone close to them say: “I doubt he’ll kill you.” It may be intended as reassurance, but to someone living with abuse, those words can feel dismissive, minimising, and dangerously out of touch with reality. The truth is that relatives, friends, and… Read More “I Doubt He’ll Kill You” – Why Well-Meaning Relatives Can Get It Wrong
In many cases, courts can consider evidence that goes back many years, and they may also consider evidence from other countries, but it depends on the type of case, the relevance of the evidence, and the laws of the country where the proceedings are taking place. How far back can evidence go? There is no universal rule… Read More How far back can evidence go?
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Stories can be invented. Excuses can be rehearsed. Reality can be distorted. But hard evidence is different. Documents, photographs, messages, medical records, financial records, forensic reports, and other credible evidence don’t rely on memory or persuasion—they speak for themselves. That is why courts place such importance on evidence rather than opinion. Appeals are not successful… Read More Hard Evidence Doesn’t Lie
There seems to be a fascinating species that appears whenever accountability comes knocking. Meet The Joker. Not the one from the movies—the one who performs astonishing mental gymnastics to convince everyone they’re the innocent victim while leaving a trail of emotional destruction behind them. According to The Joker, they have never lied, never manipulated, never shouted,… Read More The Joker’s Guide to Looking Whiter Than White
One of the most astonishing aspects of abusive relationships is not always the abuse itself. Sometimes it is what happens afterwards. An abusive partner may deny everything, rewrite history, invent elaborate stories, and even swear under oath that their version of events is the truth. They may accuse their victim of lying, exaggerating, or being… Read More When an Abuser Invents a Story Under Oath… Then Expects You to Take Them Back
There was a time when birthdays, Christmas, holidays, family gatherings, and celebrations filled me with anxiety rather than excitement. Instead of looking forward to making memories, I found myself bracing for impact. Would today be the day everything exploded? Would a harmless comment trigger an argument? Would the silent treatment begin? Would the verbal abuse… Read More The Magic Returns
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