There are quite a few campaigns and initiatives happening in Spain right now around violence against women and girls—some long-standing, some evolving with new risks (like digital abuse). Here’s a clear overview of the main ones so you can see the landscape: 🇪🇸 Current & Ongoing Campaigns in Spain 🔴 “Saca tarjeta roja al maltratador” (Show the red card… Read More 🇪🇸 Current & Ongoing Campaigns in Spain
Recent reports have highlighted a deeply concerning reality: in some cases, the impact of domestic abuse is so severe that victims take their own lives. This is not a separate issue from abuse.It is part of it. When a person is subjected to sustained fear, control, psychological harm, and isolation, the damage is not always… Read More When Abuse Doesn’t End in Visible Violence: The Hidden Cost of Coercion and Control
1. Make the decision harder to undo Don’t rely on willpower alone—use structure. Block / mute / restrict access where possible Delete chat threads or archive them out of sight Remove shortcuts to their profiles or contact points Reduce “easy access” pathways (this is key) 🧠 If contact is effortless, relapse is more likely. 2. Write… Read More No-Contact Relapse Prevention Plan
1. Pause the impulse (do not act immediately) Urges feel urgent—but they peak and pass like a wave. Don’t message them Don’t check their social media Don’t make decisions in the spike 🧠 Rule: If it’s intense, it’s not the time to act. 2. Name what’s actually happening Say (out loud if possible): “This is an… Read More Emergency Survival Guide: When You Feel the Urge to Go Back
Week 1: Stabilise & Contain the Chaos This is usually the most emotionally volatile stage. ☐ Reduce or stop contact (no-contact if possible) ☐ Block or mute if messages/emails are destabilising ☐ Remove triggers (photos, chats, social media checking) ☐ Prioritise sleep, food, hydration—basic regulation first ☐ Tell at least one trusted person what’s happened… Read More First 30 Days After Leaving – Recovery Checklist
Leaving a harmful or abusive dynamic is not a single decision—it’s a process.And often, the moment you step away is when everything feels like it shakes the most. This is the part people don’t talk about enough. The seismic fallout. Why It Feels So Intense When you leave, you’re not just walking away from a person.… Read More When You Leave: Navigating the Seismic Fallout and Learning to Hold Yourself
When people experience harmful or abusive behaviour in relationships, one of the most confusing aspects is repetition. The same dynamics appear again and again.The same excuses.The same cycles. And often, the same outcome. This is why it’s essential to look beyond isolated incidents and focus on patterns over time—because psychology shows us that patterns are rarely… Read More Pay Attention to Patterns: The Psychology Behind Repeated Abusive Behaviour
Abuse does not always begin with something obvious. It often starts subtly—small shifts in behaviour, tone, or control that are easy to dismiss or explain away. Over time, these behaviours can build into patterns that impact your safety, your mental health, and your sense of self. Understanding the signs of dangerous or abusive behaviour is… Read More Dangerous and Abusive Behaviours: Recognising the Signs Before They Escalate
1. Safety & Respect You feel unsafe emotionally, physically, or psychologically There is any form of abuse (verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, financial) You’re walking on eggshells to avoid conflict Your boundaries are ignored, mocked, or punished 2. Your Nervous System Knows You feel anxious, drained, or on edge more than calm Your body feels relief when they’re… Read More Checklist: When It’s Time to Leave
The neuroscience of knowing when a situation is no longer safe There comes a point in certain situations where you feel it. Not logically.Not after analysing it for hours. 👉 You feel it in your body. The shift.The tension.The unpredictability. That moment where you realise: 👉 You can’t calm this down anymore. ⚠️ Your body knows… Read More When You Feel It — That’s Your Cue to Leave
