In couples work, I often say: keep family out of it, and if reconciliation is even a possibility, don’t turn separation into a fight over money. I’ve seen couples come back together because respect and care were still intact, and others separate but leave in a calmer, fairer place after doing the work. But when… Read More Couples Therapy
When I work with couples going through separation, I always say this early on: Keep your family out of it. Once outside voices come in, things escalate fast, and what could have been handled with dignity turns into sides, pressure, and unnecessary damage. And if there is any possibility of reconciliation—don’t turn it into a… Read More Keep your family out of it.
In my work with couples, one pattern becomes very clear over time: the outcome of a separation or reconciliation is rarely determined by the relationship ending itself—but by how people behave during that process. When couples reach a turning point, there are usually three broad paths I see unfold. 1. When Respect Remains Intact Some couples manage… Read More Couples Therapy, Separation, and What Really Determines the Outcome
Reaching a settlement of the bare minimum I am legally entitled to—no surprise there. After 32 years, I didn’t expect anything more. Legally, it may be 50%.But law and lived experience are not the same thing. Power, control, and imbalance shape what people walk away with in reality—not just paperwork. After a lifetime, what you… Read More Taking your life back
Bare minimum.That’s what it was after 32 years—and that’s what it stayed. No shock there. But this was never about money. It was about getting out.About surviving something that slowly takes pieces of you.About choosing freedom even when it costs you everything familiar. The milestones aren’t loud.They’re in the quiet moments—when your head finally feels… Read More Bare minimum
🟣 “No és no” Campaign (It means No) Widely used across Comunitat Valenciana festivals and nightlife Targets sexual harassment and assault, especially in social settings Local fiestas Bars, clubs, summer events 👉 Focus: consent, bystander awareness, immediate reporting 🟪 Puntos Violeta (Purple Points) Set up in towns across Alicante Province and Valencia Get help Report harassment Access support services 👉 Often present… Read More Valencian Community (Comunitat Valenciana)
But this isn’t happening somewhere else.It’s happening here. In our towns. In our communities. Across the Costa Blanca, there are “Puntos Violeta” at events.Posters that say “No és no.”Safe spaces in bars and shops.Campaigns in schools teaching young people about respect and control. These things exist for a reason. Because harassment is happening in nightlife.Because coercion… Read More We talk about rising abuse.We see the headlines.We read the reports.
