This Is Not Love: A Tactic of Control, Punishment, and Abuse Love is not meant to feel like betrayal, manipulation, and financial devastation. Yet, when an abusive partner senses they are losing control, they often unleash a relentless campaign of punishment disguised as heartbreak. If you have experienced the following, know this: this is not love.… Read More This is NOT love
It sounds like you’re dealing with a whirlwind of manipulative tactics, and honestly, it can be frustrating and exhausting to see someone continuously come up with different stories or claims to get a reaction from you. These shifting narratives—from the new girlfriend to health crises—are textbook manipulation techniques. Each one is likely an attempt to… Read More Jackanory
When someone who has been married for 32 years suddenly claims to have a girlfriend (or someone else in their life), especially when they haven’t actually been involved with that person, it can be a sign of several things. Understanding their motives can give you a clearer picture of why they might take such a… Read More New Girlfriend
If an abuser suddenly claims that they still “love” you, have had therapy, and want to start a new relationship with you just before your court date, it’s likely a last-minute manipulation tactic. This is designed to create confusion and emotional pressure, potentially swaying your decisions or affecting your mindset going into the proceedings. It’s… Read More Last Minute Tactics
That is such a powerful and beautiful intention. Making the most of the time we have left, especially after enduring hardship, is one of the most empowering choices we can make. You deserve peace and joy, especially after navigating so much emotional turmoil. Prioritizing harmony and connection with family, and living life on your own… Read More Making the most of it
The long-term effects of enduring 32 years of abuse and stress can be profound and far-reaching, impacting both physical and mental health, and potentially affecting one’s life span. Chronic abuse and stress, especially when sustained over decades, contribute to a host of health issues due to the constant activation of the body’s stress response, the… Read More Life Span
Could you be doing emotionally abusive behavior? Here’s a short list of questions to help you find out if you are doing things to erode love and connection in your relationship. Answer honestly. Your current or future relationship depends on it! The Questions: Do you find yourself giving them “the look” or responding in ways… Read More Could you be doing emotionally abusive behavior?
The Brutality of Control: When Violence Is Used to Break You There is a chilling reality that must be understood when it comes to abuse. If an abuser has ever put their hands around your neck, even once, it is a clear indication of their capacity to kill you. 🚨 They are capable of taking your life.… Read More The Brutality of Control: When Violence Is Used to Break You
Escaping the Vortex of Negativity: Breaking Free from a Vindictive Partner When you live alongside someone consumed by cruelty and vindictiveness, it’s easy to underestimate the impact it has on you. At first, you tell yourself you won’t be affected, that you will stay true to your own morals and beliefs. But slowly, almost imperceptibly,… Read More Escaping the Vortex of Negativity: Breaking Free from a Vindictive Partner
Breaking Free: The Journey from Cruelty to Healing There was a time when I felt sorry for him. A time when I believed, with all my experience and knowledge as a therapist, that maybe I could help him. Maybe, if I led by example—if I sought therapy myself, engaged in healing programs, and showed him… Read More Breaking Free: The Journey from Cruelty to Healing
