An extinction burst occurs when a learned cruel or controlling behaviour no longer produces the expected reward (reaction, submission, compliance). Duration Phase Typical Duration Description Initial Burst Minutes → hours Immediate spike in intensity after boundary is enforced or silence is introduced. Secondary Burst 1–3 days Abuser may try repeated escalation, switching tactics or targets to restore… Read More How Long Extinction Bursts Last
When someone takes the “moral high ground” while their family has a documented history of serious misconduct, such as conviction for theft while in a professional fiduciary role. This is both ethically and psychologically complex, and it’s worth unpacking carefully. 1. Understand the Dynamics Psychological effects of this dynamic: 2. How This Affects Others When someone with this… Read More Moral High Ground
If a lawyer has been struck off and convicted to the point of imprisonment, and the family continues to rely on their advice or influence, it raises both legal and protective concerns. Here’s what to know and how to approach it safely: 1. Understand the Risk 2. Document Everything Documentation is key for lawyers, courts, and regulators.… Read More Inform Your Lawyer Immediately
If you know a lawyer has been struck off (disbarred, suspended, or otherwise prohibited from practicing) and your ex is continuing to take advice from them, this is a serious concern for your legal, financial, and personal safety. Here’s what you should know and do: 1. Understand the Risk 2. Document Everything 3. Inform Your Lawyer Immediately 4. Protect… Read More Disbarred
You absolutely should inform your lawyer, the judge (via your lawyer), and your psychologist if you believe the family lawyers on your ex’s side have been manipulating matters. This isn’t about accusation; it’s about protective disclosure and record‑keeping. Here’s how and why to do it safely and effectively. Why Disclosure Is Important (and Protective) 1. To Your Lawyer Your… Read More Why Disclosure Is Important (and Protective)
1. Bluffing ≠ Confidence in Truth PsychologyPeople who threaten legal action without substance rely on a common bias: Most people associate legal threats with innocence or strength. In reality, habitual bluffers understand that: This is coercive persuasion, not honesty. 2. Years of Practice Rewire Behaviour (Neuroscience) Neuroplasticity means the brain strengthens whatever it repeats. In long-term deceivers:… Read More Bluffing and legal intimidation
In Spain, the VioGén system (Sistema de Seguimiento Integral en los casos de Violencia de Género) is a government‑run system designed to help protect people — mostly women — who have reported gender‑based violence(violencia de género). It isn’t an app you turn on, but a coordinated protection and monitoring system used by police and other authorities once a case is reported. sistemaviogen.ses.mir.es+1… Read More What the VioGén System Is
Allanamiento de morada (Trespass / Violation of the Home) 1. What Article 202 protects Article 202 protects the home (dwelling) as a fundamental legal interest, directly linked to Article 18.2 of the Spanish Constitution, which guarantees the inviolability of the home. Under Spanish law, a home (“morada”) is any place where a person lives privately, whether: 2. What conduct is a crime under Article… Read More Article 202 Spanish Criminal Code
When an abusive or controlling ex-partner files for divorce again — particularly long after you initiated proceedings — the behaviour often reflects patterns of coercive control, not genuine legal necessity. 1. Reasserting Dominance After Losing Control In coercive-control dynamics, the abuser’s identity relies heavily on their ability to dictate the emotional and practical landscape of the relationship.Your original… Read More Psychological and Emotional Perspective in the Context of Coercive Control and Domestic Abuse
Here’s a table of typical high‑risk perpetrator traits + how they may manifest “behind the scenes,” based on European/Spanish research. You can use this as a checklist or reference. Trait / Risk Factor How It Can Manifest (Behind the Scenes) Research Reference History of Childhood Violence / Witnessing Abuse Grew up in a home with violence,… Read More Typical high‑risk perpetrator traits
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 