Questions to Ask When Trying to Understand the Dynamics of a Relationship

No single answer proves that abuse or financial control has occurred. However, asking thoughtful questions can help identify patterns of coercive control, manipulation, or unhealthy relationship dynamics. Communication and Openness Previous Relationships Financial Independence Money is one of the most common ways an abusive partner can gain control. Consider questions such as: Spending Patterns Being… Read More Questions to Ask When Trying to Understand the Dynamics of a Relationship

What to Do If You Notice These Warning Signs

If several of these warning signs are present, don’t ignore them or assume they will improve with time. Abuse often escalates rather than disappears. Remember Love should never require you to live in fear, give up your independence, or constantly question your own reality. A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, honesty, trust, kindness,… Read More What to Do If You Notice These Warning Signs

Warning Signs of Abuse in a New Relationship

Abuse rarely begins with obvious violence. It often starts with subtle behaviours that become more controlling over time. While no single sign proves someone is abusive, a pattern of these behaviours should never be ignored. Pay Attention to Their History Listen to What Others Say Avoid relying on gossip alone, but don’t ignore repeated concerns… Read More Warning Signs of Abuse in a New Relationship

How Much Evidence Is Enough Before We Call Abuse What It Is?

One of the most painful experiences for survivors is not just the abuse itself. It is watching people explain it away. A bruise becomes “an accident.” A threat becomes “an argument.” Years of coercive control become “marital problems.” A criminal conviction becomes “a misunderstanding.” A medical report is dismissed. A psychologist’s assessment is questioned. Photographs… Read More How Much Evidence Is Enough Before We Call Abuse What It Is?

Looking Beyond First Impressions: Recognising Patterns of Abuse

Abusive people rarely introduce themselves as abusive. Many are charming, successful, funny and well-liked. Friends, neighbours and colleagues may describe them as kind, generous or helpful. That is why it is so important to look beyond first impressions. Abuse is rarely revealed by one incident. It is recognised through consistent patterns of behaviour over time. Don’t… Read More Looking Beyond First Impressions: Recognising Patterns of Abuse

“It Wasn’t Me, It Was My Ex…” — Common Narratives Used After an Abusive Relationship Ends

When an abusive relationship ends, the abuse itself often doesn’t disappear. Sometimes, the behaviour changes form. Instead of controlling a partner behind closed doors, the person who was abusive may begin controlling the story. This can be particularly confusing for a new partner, who hears only one version of events. While every situation is different,… Read More “It Wasn’t Me, It Was My Ex…” — Common Narratives Used After an Abusive Relationship Ends

Why Early Treatment for Psychosis Matters: What Happens to the Brain?

Psychosis is a medical emergency, yet many people live with symptoms for months—or even years—before receiving treatment. This period is known as the duration of untreated psychosis (DUP). Over the past several decades, researchers have found that the longer psychosis goes untreated, the more difficult recovery can become for many people. Early treatment does not guarantee… Read More Why Early Treatment for Psychosis Matters: What Happens to the Brain?

When Someone Tells You They Are Being Abused: Your Response Matters More Than You Think

It takes enormous courage for someone to disclose domestic abuse. Many survivors have spent months—or even years—wondering whether anyone will believe them. By the time they tell you, they may have rehearsed the conversation hundreds of times in their head. They may be terrified of being judged, blamed or dismissed. How you respond in those… Read More When Someone Tells You They Are Being Abused: Your Response Matters More Than You Think