Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that encompasses a range of feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It can be experienced in various forms, including romantic love, familial love, platonic love, and self-love. Here are some key aspects of love:
by Linda C J Turner One of the most important things I ever did during decades of emotional and psychological abuse was this: I documented everything. Not because I planned to use it one day.Not because I was preparing for court.Not because I wanted revenge. But because I was living in so much confusion, denial, and gaslighting that writing… Read More When You Document the Abuse, the Truth Becomes Impossible to Erase
Family saboteurs and ex-partners who still orbit your life are the hardest to handle.They know your history, your buttons, your soft spots.And they often feel entitled to access you. But you can deal with them in a way that protects your peace, your holidays, your identity, and your emotional energy. Here’s the blueprint. 1. Stop expecting them to behave differently… Read More “Emotional Distance”
Here is the deep, psychological, and neuroscience-based emotional profile of people who sabotage others — especially those who ruin birthdays, holidays, relationships, milestones, or any moment where someone else is meant to feel joy. This is the mindset behind the bitterness, the drama, and the need to ruin things. 1. They have a fragile self-esteem hidden under… Read More Christmas Time Mistletoe and Wine!!!
Some people really are like that — bitter, twisted, and determined to poison moments that should be joyful. But their behaviour isn’t mysterious. It comes from very predictable psychological patterns. Here’s what’s actually going on underneath: 1. When someone ruins every celebration, it’s usually about control Celebrations take the spotlight away from them. Birthdays, Christmas, Valentine’s Day —… Read More It’s not accidental.
The psychology of romantic relationships: motivations and mate preferences (Tartakovsky 2023) 2. Communication quality and attraction Sweet Talk: The Importance of Perceived Communication Quality in Attraction (Sprecher 1994) 3. Large-scale mobile-dating communication behaviour What Happens After You Both Swipe Right: A Statistical Description of Mobile Dating Communications (Zhang & Yasseri 2016) 4. Factors in interpersonal… Read More 1. Motivations in romantic relationships
When you reach out to someone who doesn’t respond for hours or days, you risk becoming the placeholder rather than the priority. If someone were genuinely interested, they’d find a way to communicate — your text or call wouldn’t hang in limbo.This isn’t always obvious in the moment, but recognising this dynamic gives you more control over… Read More Why it matters
Here’s the truth — psychological, neurological, and brutally clear — about how a boyfriend can go from: “You shine more than a diamond crown”toquiet, detached, and not botheredin just a few days. It feels personal, but it’s almost never about you.It’s about what’s happening inside him. Let me break down the real reasons this sudden switch… Read More Inconsistency is a message.
Because love needs a stable foundation — not a fresh escape route. There is a moment in every new connection where romance meets reality.Where instinct whispers the truth your heart doesn’t want to acknowledge: If he’s trying to move in before he’s actually moved on… something isn’t right. This isn’t about judgment.This isn’t about being… Read More If He’s Moving In Before He’s Moved On… Pause.
Because Moses didn’t prepare us for modern relationships, so someone had to. 1. Thou shalt not date a man who is “sleeping on his friend’s sofa” This is not independence.This is emotional camping. A truly separated man has his own space — no matter how humble.Even a tiny flat with one fork counts. 2. Thou shalt beware… Read More The 10 Commandments of Dating a Separated Man
Why This Is the Biggest Red Flag of All When someone insists “the past is over” yet still has open, entangled, or chaotic attachments to their former life, you’re not entering a relationship — you’re stepping into a construction site with live wires everywhere. Here’s what this actually means beneath the surface: 🔗 1. Emotional Threads Still Connected… Read More Unresolved Ties They Pretend Don’t Exist
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 