Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that encompasses a range of feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It can be experienced in various forms, including romantic love, familial love, platonic love, and self-love. Here are some key aspects of love:
A push–pull pattern looks like this: “I miss you.” Silence for days. “You’re amazing.” Withdrawal when you respond. “Let’s meet.” Cancellation. Intense affection. Emotional distance. From a neuroscience perspective, this unpredictability creates a variable reward schedule, the same learning principle that makes slot machines so compelling. The brain releases dopamine not because of consistent reward, but… Read More The Push–Pull Dynamic
Sometimes the most revealing question is also the simplest. When did love ever enter the arena? Looking back over decades, the pattern becomes difficult to ignore. A man stacking chocolate bars marries a woman who has completed her exams, secured a stable teaching career and brings financial security into the relationship. Together, she invests years… Read More When Did Love Ever Enter the Arena?
People look at the wedding photograph and ask the same question. “Why the rush?” Why a whirlwind wedding in Las Vegas? Why get married just before moving to France? Why sell your own secure home which took years to buy, give-up a successful career, financial independence, family and lifelong friends so quickly? For years, I… Read More The Wedding Was Quick. The Control Lasted Thirty-Two Years.
People keep saying the same thing to me. “You look different.” “You seem so much more relaxed.” “You’re smiling more.” “You’ve found your voice.” At first, I didn’t know what they meant. Then I realised they weren’t seeing a new version of me. They were seeing the version that had been buried for years. Abuse… Read More You Only Realise How Bad It Was Once You’re Free
For those who live under control but have been told it is love. For those who have learned to stay quiet because speaking up has always come at a cost. For those who have spent years—or decades—walking on eggshells, second-guessing every decision, and shrinking themselves to keep the peace. For those who tolerate insults, manipulation,… Read More There Is Another Way
The Psychology & Neuroscience Behind Love Bombing, Push-Pull Behaviour and False Hope Modern dating isn’t just about reading text messages. It’s about reading between the lines. Manipulative people know that a well-timed message can trigger dopamine, create anticipation and keep someone emotionally invested long before genuine trust has formed. Here are some classic translations. 💼 “Sorry,… Read More 📱 Text Message Red Flag Translator
Online dating is becoming less like finding a soulmate and more like applying for a job with MI5. So, you do your homework. You search the business they proudly told you they own. Nothing. You look for the property empire they casually mentioned over dinner. Nothing. You search the company website. Nothing. You check professional… Read More When the Background Check Comes Back… Empty
Every now and then, someone proudly announces, “I was a bit of a player in my younger days.” The question is: Is it a confession, or is it a warning label? People absolutely can change. Human brains are capable of forming new habits, developing empathy and building healthy relationships throughout life. Genuine change happens when someone… Read More “I Used to Be a Player…” – Should You Be Worried?
We’ve all heard the phrase, “They’re just a player.” But what does that actually mean? A player isn’t simply someone who dates a lot. A player is someone who enjoys the pursuit, the attention and the emotional power that comes from making another person invest in them—often with little intention of building a genuine relationship. They know… Read More Players: Why Do They Love Bomb and Give False Hope?
Remember when meeting someone meant bumping into them in a café or being introduced by a friend? Now it starts with a profile that reads: “6’4″, Michelin-star chef, part-time brain surgeon, RAF pilot, property developer, model, philanthropist and dog whisperer.” Really? If dating apps reflected real life, every hospital in the country would have closed… Read More Welcome to Online Dating… Where Everyone Is Apparently a Brain Surgeon
