Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that encompasses a range of feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It can be experienced in various forms, including romantic love, familial love, platonic love, and self-love. Here are some key aspects of love:
Have you ever noticed how the mood of the people around you affects your own? Spend enough time with someone who complains constantly, criticises everyone, expects the worst, and finds fault in every situation, and eventually you begin to feel the weight of it yourself. The atmosphere becomes heavy. Conversations become repetitive. Joy disappears almost… Read More Misery Loves Misery. Laughter Is Contagious.
It’s the simple things that make the biggest difference. Having choices. Deciding where to go, what to eat, how long to stay, and who to spend time with—without fear or guilt. Being able to join in with the fun without worrying about the cost, being criticised for spending money, or watching the clock because someone… Read More You don’t realise how much of yourself you’ve lost until you’re free.
People often ask how I’m coping with yet another delay. The truth is, the delayed house sale is frustrating, but I can cope with that. The delayed divorce is another matter entirely. A house is bricks and mortar. It represents money, paperwork, and practical decisions. Of course, delays are stressful, especially when you’re trying to… Read More A Delayed House Sale Is Frustrating. A Delayed Divorce Is Something Else Entirely.
When I recovered the backup drive after the computer had been wiped, I wasn’t simply recovering digital files. I was recovering part of my own history. For years, I had kept documents, photographs, correspondence, and records that helped me make sense of what I had lived through. Some of those files became important evidence during… Read More The Backup Drive: Recovering More Than Files
People often ask me when I’m going to write my book. My answer is always the same. I’m waiting for the divorce to be finalised. For a long time, I simply wasn’t ready to write it. After decades of living with abuse, my priority wasn’t telling my story—it was healing from it. Trauma recovery takes… Read More Waiting for the Final Chapter Before I Write the Next One
During a conversation this morning, someone said something that resonated deeply with me: “He never wanted you to be happy. He was so miserable with his own life and himself long before he met you that he was determined to destroy any happiness you experienced.” Whether or not we can ever know another person’s true… Read More “He Never Wanted Me to Be Happy”: The Psychology and Neuroscience Behind This Behaviour
People notice far more than we sometimes realise. They notice whether a home is cared for. They notice whether responsibilities are shared. They notice whether one partner carries the weight of running the household while the other remains largely absent from family life. They notice when there seems to be little investment in the family… Read More Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Financial abuse is not defined by how much money a family has. It is defined by how money is used to create power, dependence, fear, or inequality. Relationship psychologists recognise that financial abuse often develops gradually. It is the repeated pattern—not a single event—that matters. Possible warning signs include: Children repeatedly describing one parent as frightening,… Read More Possible Warning Signs of Financial Abuse and Withholding
Healthy partnership vs unhealthy partnership Comparison of common relationship patterns. No single characteristic proves abuse or financial control; it is the overall pattern that matters. Healthy partnership When Image and Reality Don’t Match A healthy relationship is rarely measured by income alone. It is measured by how resources, respect, and responsibilities are shared. Someone may describe… Read More When Image and Reality Don’t Match
One of the most revealing moments in any relationship is when you hear two very different accounts of the same family. One person describes a “perfect” childhood and an idyllic family life. Another sibling quietly confides that home was marked by frequent arguments, emotional distance, financial control, poor communication, or a lack of teamwork. Which… Read More When Words and Behaviour Don’t Match: The Psychology of Family Narratives
