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Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that encompasses a range of feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It can be experienced in various forms, including romantic love, familial love, platonic love, and self-love. Here are some key aspects of love:

“Get Over It” Is Not Healing—Healthy Families Break the Cycle

Children and grandchildren learn far more from what they observe than from what they are told. Neuroscience and psychology consistently show that young people develop their understanding of relationships by watching the adults around them. When families remain trapped in anger, resentment, hostility, and unresolved conflict for years or even decades, the next generation absorbs… Read More “Get Over It” Is Not Healing—Healthy Families Break the Cycle

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Five Moves. One Pattern. The Neuroscience and Psychology of Carrying Everything Alone.

As I prepare for my fifth and final move, I’m struck by something I hadn’t fully appreciated before. I’ve spent decades moving homes. But more than that… I’ve spent decades moving almost entirely on my own. The first move was into his house. The second was into the home I bought myself. While I packed… Read More Five Moves. One Pattern. The Neuroscience and Psychology of Carrying Everything Alone.

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Three Boxes of Self-Help Books: Thirty Years Spent Trying to Fix a Marriage That Was Never Mine to Fix

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

As I prepare for my final move, I have been sorting through decades of paperwork. Among the boxes were three large cartons filled with self-help books. Books on relationships. Communication. Trauma. Psychology. Neuroscience. Emotional intelligence. Attachment theory. Mindfulness. Marriage. Forgiveness. Conflict resolution. Thousands upon thousands of pages. Three decades of searching for answers. Three decades… Read More Three Boxes of Self-Help Books: Thirty Years Spent Trying to Fix a Marriage That Was Never Mine to Fix

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Sacrifice

From the perspectives of psychology and neuroscience, this pattern is not simply about money. When someone pressures a partner to sell their car, home, family heirlooms, or other valuable possessions while concealing their own assets, it can be a form of financial abuse and coercive control. The possessions themselves often carry more than financial value—they represent independence, security, family… Read More Sacrifice

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Sometimes the Greatest Victory Is Walking Away

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

One of the hardest lessons for survivors of coercive control is that not every battle can be won. Many spend years believing that if they could only explain themselves better, produce more evidence or appeal to reason, things would finally change. Eventually, many discover a painful truth. Some conflicts are not about finding a fair… Read More Sometimes the Greatest Victory Is Walking Away

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Financial Exploitation Over Decades: When You Realise It Was Never Personal

One of the most painful questions survivors ask after leaving an abusive relationship is: “Why me?” They replay conversations, decisions and memories, searching for the moment they believe they failed. But sometimes, as more of the past becomes clear, another question emerges: “What if it was never really about me?” Seeing the Pattern Many survivors… Read More Financial Exploitation Over Decades: When You Realise It Was Never Personal

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The Money-Motivated Abuser: When Financial Gain Becomes More Important Than People

Not every abusive person is motivated by money. Some seek power, admiration, control or emotional dominance. For others, however, money becomes one of the most powerful tools of manipulation. In these relationships, finances are not simply about paying bills or planning for the future. They become a means of gaining control, creating dependence and serving… Read More The Money-Motivated Abuser: When Financial Gain Becomes More Important Than People

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When Money Is Always on Their Mind: When Relationships Become Financial Transactions

Money is an important part of every relationship. Couples need to budget, plan for the future and make financial decisions together. But there is a significant difference between being financially responsible and being constantly preoccupied with money at the expense of the relationship itself. For some people, money is not simply a practical necessity—it becomes… Read More When Money Is Always on Their Mind: When Relationships Become Financial Transactions

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“I Wish I’d Gone After My Ex’s Pension”: What Comments Like This May Reveal

Sometimes a single remark tells us less about a person’s personality than it does about their values. A comment such as, “I wish I’d gone after my ex-wife’s pension. A teacher’s pension would have been much larger than mine. Maybe it’s not too late,” does not, on its own, prove someone is abusive or indicate a particular… Read More “I Wish I’d Gone After My Ex’s Pension”: What Comments Like This May Reveal

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