A Psychological Exploration of Why We Choose the Wrong Partner Someone once asked me:“Did you marry him because he had money?” My daughter practically fell over laughing. “He never had money. You were the one working hard. You earned everything. Unless he’s been secretly stashing it away all your married life!” Let’s get one thing… Read More “So If It Wasn’t for Money, or Looks, or Kindness — Why Did I Marry Him?”
“Wait… So You’re Telling Me Love Isn’t Supposed to Feel Like DIY Therapy?”Or: After 3 Decades of Tolerating the Bare Minimum, I Found Out There’s an Upgrade Package You know that moment when you meet someone and think:“Wait… you can do all that and be kind to me?”Yeah, me neither—until recently. Because after 30 long years of being with… Read More “After 30 years of tolerating emotional crumbs, I found someone who brought the whole damn bakery.” 🥐
“Don’t you miss him? Having to do everything yourself now?”Ah, the million-dollar question. You could hear the room hush slightly, everyone waiting for my answer. But before I could even respond, my oldest friend—who’s known me since we were both sporting perms and lip gloss in the 80s—burst out laughing. “Miss him? She’s always done… Read More “DIY Diva: 30 Years of Doing It All (While He Played Tennis)”
Ah, delusion. It’s the perfume some people wear so thickly, they can’t smell the truth even when it’s wafting around the room in bold neon letters. So there I was, casually mentioning to someone from the old circle that we were all friends once, trying to be gracious (as always). She paused, raised an eyebrow, and replied… Read More “Just Someone We Used to Play Tennis With…” 🎾💅(aka: Not Quite the Friend He Thought He Was)
When I finally walked away from the chaos and control, something unexpected happened. A dear friend from church, who had quietly watched me dim under the weight of a toxic relationship, pulled me aside with the kind of honesty only true friends dare to deliver. With a half-whisper and a full dose of sass, she… Read More “Not Quite George Clooney – But Close Enough!”
A Gentle Compass When You’re Struggling to Decide When we’re lost in uncertainty — trying to decide whether to stay or leave, speak up or stay quiet, forgive or protect ourselves — the internal conflict can feel like a war zone. Trauma survivors in particular often second-guess themselves, because their trust in their own judgment… Read More 🌿 “Do Everything from a Place of Love”
Such a powerful moment — the one where denial dies, and you’re left holding a piece of the truth you wish you’d never found. When you see what you never wanted to see, when the computer is wiped, the phone is locked, and the atmosphere shifts into secrecy, you’re no longer guessing — you’re witnessing a cover-up. Here is a heartfelt and… Read More When you see what you never wanted to see!
There’s a certain kind of peace you can’t describe — the kind that comes not from yoga or green juice, but from knowing you no longer live with someone whose temper was only being managed by a little pill and a lot of denial. For 20 years, he took medication to suppress the rage bubbling under the… Read More 🏃♀️Dodged a Bullet (and a Flying Plate): Life After Living with a Human Volcano
Yesterday, I made a last-minute decision to play padel — a small act of spontaneity and self-care. I parked outside the court for just an hour. When I returned, I found fresh damage to my car. No one knew I was there — except someone who is watching me far too closely. This isn’t a coincidence.… Read More 🌪 When the Cage Is Rattled… The Mask Slips 🧠💔
Some people never change.Not because they can’t.But because they don’t want to. They thrive on control. They live for the drama. And they get a sick sense of satisfaction from watching chaos unfold—especially when they’re not the one holding the match. They don’t light the fire.They hand someone else the torch. 🧠 A Special Kind of Abuser:… Read More 🎭 The Puppet Master Abuser: When They Use Others to Fire Their Bullets
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 