Category: LINDA C J TURNER – Trauma Therapist

Cancer Treatment

Mortality Awareness: Facing a life-threatening illness can make someone acutely aware of their mortality. This can lead them to reassess their priorities and evaluate what truly matters to them.Changed Perspective: The vulnerability and rawness of the experience often peel away layers of complacency. People might question if they’re living authentically or fulfilling their true purpose.Emotional and Physical Exhaustion: Treatment can be grueling, often bringing patients face-to-face with their deepest fears, desires, and regrets. This process can spark profound realizations about life and relationships.Rediscovery of Self: In focusing on survival, some people reconnect with parts of themselves they may have neglected. This might shift how they view their relationships or the dynamics in their lives.… Read More Cancer Treatment

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True Freedom

I thought I was going mad, being told on a regular basis that I was unhinged and had issues for many years. I was warned that if I ever told anyone about the abuse, he would discredit me completely. After spending months with my psychologist, it became clear that the only issue I ever had was with him controlling my life.

The immense feeling of relief and normalcy that comes from being away from a toxic person is almost indescribable. The control, the emotional abuse, and the financial abuse had become my normal—my comfort zone. It’s shocking to realize just how much I had adapted to such a damaging environment.… Read More True Freedom

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Coming out of the fog

For years, I lived under the constant weight of being told I was unhinged and had issues. Those words became a relentless echo in my mind, chipping away at my confidence and sense of self. Over time, I started to question my own reality. Was I truly the problem? Was I losing my grip on what was real? The emotional toll of hearing those accusations day after day left me feeling trapped and isolated.

Adding to the pain was the threat that if I ever spoke out about the abuse I was enduring, my abuser would discredit me to everyone around me. It was a chilling warning that kept me silent, reinforcing the control he held over my life. The fear of not being believed, of being painted as irrational or unstable, became a powerful barrier to seeking help.… Read More Coming out of the fog

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I am tee total

That’s such a powerful and inspiring accomplishment! It’s a testament to your strength and resilience that you’ve been able to reclaim control over your life and habits, especially after enduring emotional abuse. Your ability to create and maintain a calm, toxic-free environment is a huge step toward healing and personal freedom.

When you’re ready to return to social drinking on your terms, it will come from a place of empowerment, not as a coping mechanism. For now, it’s wonderful to hear that you’re enjoying the peace and clarity that come with this new chapter in your life. Keep celebrating those victories—you’ve earned every moment of tranquility and joy. 🌟… Read More I am tee total

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Why People Choose Vengeance Over Healing

You’re absolutely right—holding on to vengeance and vindictiveness is like carrying a heavy burden that only weighs the person down. People who invest their energy in trying to harm or destroy others are often consumed by their own pain, anger, or unresolved trauma. They focus outward, projecting their struggles onto others, rather than turning inward to heal and grow. It’s a sad cycle because this kind of behavior rarely brings them the satisfaction or resolution they crave.… Read More Why People Choose Vengeance Over Healing

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The Emotional Toll of Financial Scarcity

Loss of Autonomy: Being scrutinized for every expense creates a sense of powerlessness. Over time, it can feel like you’re not trusted or capable of managing your own resources.

Emotional Fatigue: Constantly accounting for every penny is mentally exhausting. It creates a scarcity mindset where even necessary spending feels like a burden or a risk.

Diminished Joy: The inability to freely spend on yourself, your children, or things that bring you happiness can lead to feelings of deprivation and resentment.Shift the Scarcity Mindset: Recognize that money is a tool to enhance life, not something to be hoarded out of fear. Allow yourself to spend on things that bring joy and connection, such as gifts or experiences with your children and grandchildren.

Celebrate Your Freedom: If you’re no longer in that controlling environment, take small steps to enjoy the freedom you’ve reclaimed. Start by setting aside a budget specifically for enjoyment, whether it’s for family outings, hobbies, or treating yourself.

Forgive Yourself: If you feel guilt about spending or “wasting” money after years of scarcity, remember that this guilt isn’t yours to carry. It was conditioned into you and doesn’t reflect your worth or your ability to manage money responsibly.… Read More The Emotional Toll of Financial Scarcity

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No Love or Respect

Your Money, Your Choices: In a healthy relationship, partners discuss finances collaboratively, but controlling how you spend your money—especially when it comes to your children or grandchildren—is not acceptable.

Setting Boundaries: Firmly and consistently enforce boundaries. Let your partner know what is and isn’t negotiable when it comes to your family and personal freedom.… Read More No Love or Respect

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Bring it on

If he thinks he can break me like he did with his ex during the previous divorce, he is deluded. His false claims of love, whispered to mutual friends, do not fool me. The man he pretends to be and the man I know him to be are worlds apart. I see through his tactics, and I will not falter.

No, I will not drop the criminal court case in March. His actions have consequences, and this time, he will face them. No, he will not have my dog. That loyal companion has been by my side through this turmoil, and he has no right to take what brings me comfort. No, I will not buy back my own car. The audacity to suggest such a thing only highlights his continued attempts to exert control over me. And no, I will not pay his bills. The financial chaos he has created is his responsibility, not mine.… Read More Bring it on

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Kangaroo Court

Despite everything, I gave him a chance to do the decent thing. But his actions have left me with no choice but to take this matter to court.

After receiving several of his bills—bills that are not my responsibility—he has also broken the restraining order multiple times, canceling my UK bank cards without my consent, and collecting my post from the post box as if it’s his right. His ongoing attempts to disrupt my life, even during the holidays, reached another low point when he tried once again to ruin my Christmas. This, despite the fact that we are no longer together. In addition to these blatant violations, he has resorted to spreading lies to mutual friends, twisting the truth, and painting himself in a false light. His financial settlement offers have been nothing short of insulting, falling far below the bare minimum I am legally entitled to. These ridiculous proposals only highlight his disregard for fairness and his continued attempts to control and manipulate.… Read More Kangaroo Court

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