Today someone asked me, very seriously, whether his children would be helping sort out all the stuff in the house and garage now everything has imploded. I laughed. Loudly. Not because I’m bitter.Because after 32 years of evidence, it would be statistically shocking if they suddenly appeared wearing overalls and holding storage boxes. Where were… Read More Apparently the Family “Collection Service” Is Delayed

If someone genuinely entered a marriage already planning for divorce, financial protection, or strategic advantage—and family members knowingly helped conceal that—that would understandably feel like a profound betrayal. But emotionally, it’s important to be careful not to let hindsight turn every past event into proof of a coordinated conspiracy. After painful discoveries, the brain naturally… Read More “The whole marriage was fake.”

Sometimes people are less interested in an equal partnership and more interested, consciously or unconsciously, in finding someone to function as a caregiver, rescuer, emotional support system, financial provider, or life manager. That can show up as: expecting one person to handle all practical responsibilities relying heavily on a partner emotionally without reciprocity needing constant… Read More Caregivers