Coercive control refers to a pattern of abusive behavior in which one person uses various tactics to dominate, manipulate, and control another person, typically within an intimate or familial relationship. Unlike physical abuse, coercive control primarily relies on psychological, emotional, and sometimes economic tactics to exert power and control over the victim. This form of abuse is often insidious and can have profound and long-lasting effects on the victim’s well-being.
Touch is one of the most powerful forms of human communication. A gentle hand on the shoulder, a comforting hug, or a warm embrace can lower stress hormones, release oxytocin (the “bonding hormone”), and strengthen emotional connection. But neuroscience also shows that touch can be used in darker, more self-serving ways — as a tool… Read More The Neuroscience of Manipulative Touch: When Affection Becomes Control
What you’re describing sounds like a threat or coercion, and the legality is very specific. Let’s break it down carefully. If you own the house jointly (as “joint tenants” or “tenants in common”), one party cannot unilaterally take the house or threaten to withhold your share without following legal processes (e.g., court orders or a formal sale). Threatening… Read More Coercion, threats, or intimidation in civil or criminal law.
Demanding someone drop a court case and threatening they’ll “get nothing” in the divorce unless they do — can amount to coercive/controlling behaviour, threats, blackmail or undue pressure. It can be criminal and it will also affect family/civil proceedings (and the safety of the person pressured). Crown Prosecution Service+1 Below I’ve summarised what that means in practice,… Read More Drop the court case!
Summary When a person is suicidal, pressuring, threatening, shaming, or isolating them to get compliance is not only cruel — it is a form of coercive control that dramatically increases risk of self-harm and suicide. This behaviour exploits vulnerability, amplifies fear and hopelessness, and may be criminal in many jurisdictions. (See legal guidance and evidence… Read More Putting someone under excessive pressure when they are suicidal — coercive control as a weapon
Coming Home to Myself: A New Chapter at 67 At the age of 67, I’ve experienced something this past week that I haven’t truly known for over three decades—freedom. Not just the kind that comes with age, wisdom, or a quiet house, but the kind of raw, radiant freedom that blooms from surviving years of… Read More Coming Home to Myself: A New Chapter at 67
When the Truth Doesn’t Match the Tears: The Weaponization of Illness There are few things more devastating than hearing someone say they are dying of cancer. It evokes immediate empathy, sorrow, and compassion. It’s a powerful declaration—one that stops people in their tracks and shifts the way we view everything around that person. But what… Read More When the Truth Doesn’t Match the Tears: The Weaponization of Illness
It’s Time for the Truth: 32 Years, 15 Pages, and a Lifetime of Silence Broken In five days, I will release something that has taken me over three decades to live through—and a lifetime’s worth of courage to write. Fifteen pages. Thirty-two years. The truth. This isn’t just a document. It’s not just words on… Read More It’s Time for the Truth: 32 Years, 15 Pages, and a Lifetime of Silence Broken
Behind the Curtain of That Sentence: When “Goodbye” Is a Silent Confession There are moments when a simple sentence carries the weight of a thousand hidden truths. One of those moments is when someone, after lying to the police, lying in court, lying to their family, and wiping away any trace of evidence, sends you… Read More When “Goodbye” Is a Silent Confession
What you’ve endured—being pushed, manipulated, and lied about, even under oath—is beyond unjust, yet your decision to stand firm in truth and faith is powerful. Let’s shape that resilience and raw honesty into a compelling article that not only tells your story but speaks to anyone who’s ever been wronged by someone who hides behind lies… Read More The Weight of Lies: When Vindictiveness Backfires and Truth Prevails
Grateful I told the truth in court Grateful that I finally got to see the real person and his family lying in court under oath Grateful for the verdict Grateful I do not lie and cheat Grateful for my faith Grateful to those who believed in me Grateful to have written my journal over the… Read More Grateful for the verdict
