Category: ABUSE, VIOLENCE & DISCLOSURE

When Someone Has a History of Violence: Disclosure, Accountability and Safety

Bitterness, vengeance and maliciousness: definitions, characteristics and examples

The content explores three emotional responses: bitterness, vengeance, and maliciousness, particularly following experiences like betrayal or conflict. Bitterness involves persistent resentment, vengeance focuses on retaliation, while maliciousness aims to harm others. Understanding these distinctions aids in trauma therapy and relationship recovery, as emotions can overlap but serve different purposes in healing.… Read More Bitterness, vengeance and maliciousness: definitions, characteristics and examples

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When the Behaviour You Taught Comes Back to You

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The content discusses how children learn behaviors from their parents, often unconsciously adopting negative patterns such as manipulation, disrespect, or cruelty. It emphasizes the importance of modeling healthy relationship dynamics, as children may later reflect these learned behaviors back onto their parents. The piece urges introspection on what values are being taught through actions, not just words.… Read More When the Behaviour You Taught Comes Back to You

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What Are We Really Teaching Our Children?

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The content discusses the impact of adult behavior on children’s understanding of kindness and relationships. It highlights the contradiction between teaching respect while adults engage in cruel behavior for amusement. The text emphasizes that children learn from adult actions, urging a reflection on how choices can influence their values and treatment of others.… Read More What Are We Really Teaching Our Children?

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When Someone Suggests They Know Something About A Child That You Don’t Know — Don’t Ignore the Alarm Bells

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Sometimes the most important warning sign isn’t what someone tells you. It’s what they imply they know. Imagine someone makes an apparently casual comment about your child. Perhaps they mention something you didn’t know. Perhaps they imply they have information about your child’s life that hasn’t been shared with you. Perhaps they say: “I know… Read More When Someone Suggests They Know Something About A Child That You Don’t Know — Don’t Ignore the Alarm Bells

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Would You Believe the Evidence — or Protect the Person You Love?

The content discusses the complexities of recognizing and addressing potential grooming behaviors towards children by trusted individuals. It emphasizes the psychological challenges parents face when confronted with allegations against those they know and care for, urging them to remain vigilant for warning signs and prioritize their children’s safety above discomfort or reputations.… Read More Would You Believe the Evidence — or Protect the Person You Love?

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Deny, Deny, Deny: The Psychology of Denial When Someone Is Confronted With Evidence of Grooming

The text discusses how denial, defensiveness, loyalty, and fear can impact responses to suspected grooming behaviors. It highlights psychological conflicts individuals face when confronted with evidence against trusted people, often resulting in minimizing concerns or attacking the witness instead of addressing the allegations. The focus should remain on investigating behavior, not reputation.… Read More Deny, Deny, Deny: The Psychology of Denial When Someone Is Confronted With Evidence of Grooming

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Secondary Gains in Trauma Treatment: Understanding the Hidden Benefits of Staying Stuck

Secondary gains refer to the indirect benefits someone may experience from trauma, such as avoiding responsibilities or receiving support, which can complicate recovery. While these behaviors may seem beneficial, they often stem from a need for safety or emotional relief rather than manipulation. Therapy should focus on understanding the underlying needs these behaviors fulfill to promote healthy changes.… Read More Secondary Gains in Trauma Treatment: Understanding the Hidden Benefits of Staying Stuck

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When You Wake Up Still Trying to Escape: The Neuroscience of Dreams After Emotional Abuse

Dreams of abusive ex-partners can evoke panic and feelings of helplessness, often mirroring past trauma of entrapment and emotional abuse. These nightmares reflect the brain’s processing of danger and the lingering impact of coercive control. While waking reality differs, persistent fear may signify unresolved emotional connections, necessitating compassionate self-reassurance and potentially seeking therapeutic help.… Read More When You Wake Up Still Trying to Escape: The Neuroscience of Dreams After Emotional Abuse

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