When Someone Has a History of Violence: Disclosure, Accountability and Safety
Leaving an abusive relationship is not always the end of the abuse. Sometimes, it is the beginning of a different kind of fear. After decades of domestic abuse, coercive control, intimidation and threats, you may finally reach a point where you can breathe again. You have left quietly. You have rebuilt your life carefully, perhaps… Read More When Is It Safe to Move On Publicly After Domestic Abuse?
If your restraining order is approaching expiry and you are concerned about your safety, you may be able to ask the court for a new protective measure. This is not an automatic renewal: the court must consider the legal requirements and the evidence of risk. Under Articles 544 bis and 544 ter of Spain’s Criminal… Read More Obtaining a New Protective Order in Spain: What Survivors Need to Know
The article emphasizes that the expiration of a restraining order does not equate to the end of risk for domestic abuse survivors. It advises women in this situation to proactively assess their safety, document breaches, and seek legal guidance for ongoing protection. Emotional healing requires both legal and therapeutic support for rebuilding lives free from fear.… Read More When a Restraining Order Is Not Enough: Seeking Continued Protection After Domestic Abuse in Spain
Two years ago, I was deemed at extreme risk for domestic violence, but now my risk level has decreased to medium due to protective measures. Although progress has been made, I emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing abuse early. I share my journey to inspire others to seek help without delay.… Read More From Extreme Risk to Medium: Two Years Later, I Am Beginning to Feel Safe
The warning signs you may not recognise until you finally speak out By Linda CJ Turner | Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner I want to talk about something I know from personal experience. When you have lived with abuse for many years, your perception of what is normal can gradually change. You… Read More When You Have Lived With Abuse for Years, You May Not Realise How Much Danger You Are In
Warning signs, dangerous combinations and when to seek help By Linda CJ Turner | Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner Content warning: This article discusses domestic abuse, strangulation, threats, stalking and domestic homicide. Leaving a relationship is not always the end of domestic abuse. For some people, it is the point at which… Read More Beyond Leaving: When Domestic Abuse Becomes Life-Threatening
Long-term relationships can end unexpectedly, leaving partners confused about a man’s decision to leave after many years. Emotional detachment, desire for a new identity, influence from another woman, and minimization of shared history can drive this choice. Ultimately, a woman’s worth remains, regardless of a man’s actions or apparent happiness post-separation.… Read More Why do some men leave a good woman after decades together?
Victims of domestic abuse often grapple with intense fears about leaving, feeling trapped between familiar pain and an uncertain future. The emotional and psychological weight of abuse erodes confidence, making freedom seem perilous. However, leaving is possible, leading to gradual healing and rediscovery of identity, safety, and independence, with support available.… Read More Too Scared to Stay. Too Scared to Leave. What Is Life Really Like on the Other Side?
I didn’t fear the darkness that night. I feared going back to my own home. Two years ago, in the middle of the night, I walked three kilometres to a friend’s house because I needed to be safe. I had no idea how difficult the road ahead would be. I knew only one thing: I… Read More Two Years Ago Tonight, I Walked Away From 32 Years of Abuse — And I Never Looked Back – 16th October 2024
Psychologists Vrij, Hartwig, and Granhag’s 2019 review highlights that non-verbal cues associated with lying are often unreliable, with people’s ability to accurately detect lies merely at 54%. Court assessments should prioritize reliable evidence over body language, as emotional display does not reliably indicate dishonesty or truthfulness.… Read More The key research finding
