“It Wasn’t Me, It Was My Ex…” — Common Narratives Used After an Abusive Relationship Ends

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

When an abusive relationship ends, the abuse itself often doesn’t disappear. Sometimes, the behaviour changes form. Instead of controlling a partner behind closed doors, the person who was abusive may begin controlling the story. This can be particularly confusing for a new partner, who hears only one version of events. While every situation is different,… Read More “It Wasn’t Me, It Was My Ex…” — Common Narratives Used After an Abusive Relationship Ends

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20 posts from this day, July 4 2025. 🏖️

2025   🤍 What They Didn’t See 🤍   View • Reblog   Having My Day in Court ⚖️   View • Reblog   💔 Definition of Cruelty in a Relationship   View • Reblog   🤍 The Cost of Being ‘Good’ for Too Long 🤍   View • Reblog 2024   Exploiting relationships   View • Reblog   Psychological Manipulation   View • Reblog   Recognizing Abuse in the Context of Drugs and Cults   View • Reblog   Unhealthy Relationships Between Friends… Read More 20 posts from this day, July 4 2025. 🏖️

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Why Early Treatment for Psychosis Matters: What Happens to the Brain?

Psychosis is a medical emergency, yet many people live with symptoms for months—or even years—before receiving treatment. This period is known as the duration of untreated psychosis (DUP). Over the past several decades, researchers have found that the longer psychosis goes untreated, the more difficult recovery can become for many people. Early treatment does not guarantee… Read More Why Early Treatment for Psychosis Matters: What Happens to the Brain?

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When Someone Tells You They Are Being Abused: Your Response Matters More Than You Think

It takes enormous courage for someone to disclose domestic abuse. Many survivors have spent months—or even years—wondering whether anyone will believe them. By the time they tell you, they may have rehearsed the conversation hundreds of times in their head. They may be terrified of being judged, blamed or dismissed. How you respond in those… Read More When Someone Tells You They Are Being Abused: Your Response Matters More Than You Think

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“Keep It in the Family” Can Be Dangerous: Why Silence Protects Abuse, Not Victims

For generations, families have repeated the same phrases: “Don’t make a fuss.” “Keep it in the family.” “Think of the children.” “Don’t tell anyone.” “You’ll ruin the family.” “Just keep the peace.” On the surface, these words may sound like they are protecting the family. Too often, they are protecting the abuse. Silence Gives Abuse… Read More “Keep It in the Family” Can Be Dangerous: Why Silence Protects Abuse, Not Victims

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Stop Calling Abuse “Irreconcilable Differences”

One of the most frustrating phrases survivors hear during divorce is: “The marriage has broken down due to irreconcilable differences.” Sometimes that is true. People do grow apart. They fall out of love. They want different futures. Those are genuine irreconcilable differences. But abuse is not one of them. When a relationship ends because one… Read More Stop Calling Abuse “Irreconcilable Differences”

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