One of the clearest lessons I have learned is this: Pay attention to how someone treats those who are most vulnerable. Not how they treat people they want to impress. Not how they behave when others are watching. But how they treat those who have little power to defend themselves. Children. Older people. Animals. A… Read More When Cruelty Becomes a Pattern
When starting a new relationship, it is natural to focus on chemistry, attraction and hope for the future. But psychology reminds us that past patterns deserve careful attention. If someone has been through two relationships in which abuse has been alleged or found, it doesn’t automatically mean they are abusive in every future relationship. Allegations and legal… Read More Twice Divorced Following Allegations of Abuse: Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore
Gratitude, Friendship, and a Fresh Start As I prepare to move into my new home later this week, my heart is full of gratitude. To the precious friends who have offered their time, energy, and kindness to help me move—thank you. Your generosity has restored my faith in human nature. It is a beautiful reminder… Read More Fresh start
In forensic investigations, timing can be just as important as the actions themselves. Imagine that, within 24 hours of a significant incident, a person: Each of these actions may have an entirely innocent explanation when viewed in isolation. However, when several significant changes occur within a very short period following a serious incident, investigators, forensic… Read More When Major Changes Happen Immediately After an Incident
One question I hear surprisingly often is: “Why is his ex-wife still watching me?” Sometimes it isn’t just your social media. It’s your children’s. Your family members’. Your friends’. Months or even years after the relationship has ended, she still seems interested in what is happening in your life. Why? The honest answer is that only… Read More Why Is His Ex-Wife Still Watching You? The Psychology of Social Media Monitoring
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One of the most valuable lessons neuroscience and psychology teach us is this: Behaviour that is repeated over many years often becomes a deeply ingrained habit. Our brains become efficient at repeating behaviours that have produced a desired outcome in the past. Through reinforcement and habit formation, certain ways of thinking and acting can become… Read More Observe the Pattern, Not Just the Person
One of the strongest predictors of future behaviour is past behaviour. That doesn’t mean people can’t change—they can. But genuine change usually requires accountability, insight and sustained effort, not simply the passage of time. If someone has repeatedly used relationships to gain financially, manipulated others for money, or left a trail of disputes over finances, it… Read More Before You Commit, Look at the Pattern—Not Just the Promises
For many people, the word prenup still carries uncomfortable associations. Some see it as unromantic. Others believe it suggests a lack of trust. But increasingly, people are viewing prenuptial agreements in a different light—not as a prediction that a marriage will fail, but as a practical way to protect both partners if life takes an unexpected turn.… Read More Why More People Are Choosing Prenuptial Agreements
One question has surprised me more than any other since rebuilding my life. As I meet new people and they learn that I have left an abusive relationship, the conversation often follows a similar path. “What was your ex’s name?” If they recognise the name, the response is frequently immediate. “Oh… I’ve heard of him.”… Read More “Can I See a Photo of Him?”
