Tag: #healing

Healing is a holistic and dynamic process that involves the restoration of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being after experiencing challenges, trauma, or distress. Healing is not just the absence of symptoms; it encompasses a journey toward overall wellness and a sense of wholeness. The path to healing is unique for each individual and may involve a combination of self-care practices, professional support, and personal growth.

Breaking the Cycle: What Children Really Learn

Intergenerational trauma is not simply about what happens to one generation—it is about the patterns of behaviour, relationships, and emotional responses that are passed from one generation to the next. Neuroscience tells us that a child’s brain is shaped by repeated experiences. Through a process known as experience-dependent neuroplasticity, the developing brain builds neural pathways based… Read More Breaking the Cycle: What Children Really Learn

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Five Moves. One Pattern. The Neuroscience and Psychology of Carrying Everything Alone.

As I prepare for my fifth and final move, I’m struck by something I hadn’t fully appreciated before. I’ve spent decades moving homes. But more than that… I’ve spent decades moving almost entirely on my own. The first move was into his house. The second was into the home I bought myself. While I packed… Read More Five Moves. One Pattern. The Neuroscience and Psychology of Carrying Everything Alone.

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Three Boxes of Self-Help Books: Thirty Years Spent Trying to Fix a Marriage That Was Never Mine to Fix

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

As I prepare for my final move, I have been sorting through decades of paperwork. Among the boxes were three large cartons filled with self-help books. Books on relationships. Communication. Trauma. Psychology. Neuroscience. Emotional intelligence. Attachment theory. Mindfulness. Marriage. Forgiveness. Conflict resolution. Thousands upon thousands of pages. Three decades of searching for answers. Three decades… Read More Three Boxes of Self-Help Books: Thirty Years Spent Trying to Fix a Marriage That Was Never Mine to Fix

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Financial Exploitation Over Decades: When You Realise It Was Never Personal

One of the most painful questions survivors ask after leaving an abusive relationship is: “Why me?” They replay conversations, decisions and memories, searching for the moment they believe they failed. But sometimes, as more of the past becomes clear, another question emerges: “What if it was never really about me?” Seeing the Pattern Many survivors… Read More Financial Exploitation Over Decades: When You Realise It Was Never Personal

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“Everyone Said the Same Thing”: When Other People Notice Something Isn’t Right

One of the most confusing experiences for survivors of coercive control is discovering, often years later, that other people had quietly felt uncomfortable too. Friends may say: “There was always something that didn’t feel right.” “I couldn’t relax around them.” “They seemed cold.” “There was something intimidating about them.” “I couldn’t understand why you always… Read More “Everyone Said the Same Thing”: When Other People Notice Something Isn’t Right

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“I Wish I’d Gone After My Ex’s Pension”: What Comments Like This May Reveal

Sometimes a single remark tells us less about a person’s personality than it does about their values. A comment such as, “I wish I’d gone after my ex-wife’s pension. A teacher’s pension would have been much larger than mine. Maybe it’s not too late,” does not, on its own, prove someone is abusive or indicate a particular… Read More “I Wish I’d Gone After My Ex’s Pension”: What Comments Like This May Reveal

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Helping Someone Recover After Abuse: What to Do—and What Not to Do

Supporting someone after an abusive or controlling relationship is not about having all the answers. It is about creating an environment where they can feel safe, respected and free to rebuild their confidence at their own pace. Small, consistent acts of kindness often make a greater difference than dramatic gestures. What to Do ✓ Listen… Read More Helping Someone Recover After Abuse: What to Do—and What Not to Do

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Helping Someone Recover After Abuse: What Matters Most?

When someone leaves an abusive or controlling relationship, many people assume the hardest part is over. Often, it isn’t. Leaving may end the relationship, but recovery takes time. Years of criticism, control, intimidation and emotional manipulation can change how a person sees themselves and the world around them. The question becomes: What helps someone recover? The… Read More Helping Someone Recover After Abuse: What Matters Most?

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