It has taken five long months to come to terms with the staggering reality of what has transpired—the lies, the distortions, the smear campaign, the silence, and the sheer brutality and cruelty of those involved. Time, they say, is a healer, and with the support of two psychologists, a psychiatrist, a court legal team, and… Read More Domestic Violence Advocacy
Grateful I have a great local veterinary for my beautiful dog to get treatment Grateful I can access the beach every day and listen to the ocean to sooth my mind Grateful to have Ellie my dog with me at the beach most days Grateful to see people I know well at the beach to… Read More Feeling Loved
It sounds like tomorrow’s meeting will be an important one, offering both legal and psychological perspectives on the situation. It’ll be insightful to hear how your psychologist interprets things from an emotional and behavioral standpoint, as well as how your legal advisors guide you in terms of strategy. Are there any specific concerns or angles… Read More Another point of view
Marriage is never perfect, but when both partners are committed, it can be manageable—even in difficult circumstances. I was finding my way in Spain, building my own life as I always had, and despite the challenges, I was making it work. But looking back, one of the biggest mistakes I ever made was trusting the… Read More The Dangers of Confiding in the Wrong People: A Personal Reflection
For people who have never been in an abusive relationship, it’s easy to judge infidelity as a black-and-white issue. But when you’ve been starved of love, respect, and emotional safety for years, your perspective shifts. It’s not about betrayal—it’s about survival. Why Do Abused People Seek a New Partner? 🔴 They Need to Feel Like a Person Again.Abuse strips… Read More Starved of Love and Affection
True intimacy is built on trust, respect, and emotional safety. When someone has abused you—mentally, emotionally, or physically—those foundations are destroyed. 🚨 You can’t desire someone you fear.🚨 You can’t connect with someone who has dehumanized you.🚨 You can’t be vulnerable with someone who uses intimacy as a weapon. Why Abused Women Often Seek Affairs For many women who have… Read More Why Sexual Chemistry Dies in an Abusive Relationship
A narcissist’s life is a revolving door of “supplies”—people they use for wealth, validation, and status. They don’t seek love or deep connection. They seek resources and admiration to maintain their illusion of success. 💰 They need someone to fund their lifestyle.🪞 They need someone to reflect their “greatness” back at them.🎭 They need an audience to keep up their image.… Read More The Narcissist’s Endless Search for a New Supply
True success isn’t measured by material possessions, status, or the image someone tries to project—it’s measured by how they treat others, especially those closest to them. 💡 An expensive house doesn’t mean a happy home.💡 A flashy lifestyle doesn’t mean an honest life.💡 What someone shows to the world is nothing compared to how they behave behind closed doors.… Read More Pretending is never real power
This is classic isolation and control. Your abuser knows that if you have support, you will gain the strength to leave—so they cut you off from anyone who might help you. 🔴 They FEAR exposure more than they care about you. Their priority isn’t fixing the relationship—it’s silencing you.🔴 They use fear, guilt, or manipulation to keep you away from others.🔴 They… Read More When You Confide in Others & Your Abuser Cuts You Off From Them
Once an abuser has strangled you, the dynamic of the relationship permanently shifts—because you now know they are capable of killing you. This isn’t love. This is survival. 💔 You stop feeling safe and start walking on eggshells.💔 You question every word, every action, trying not to trigger another attack.💔 You may even convince yourself to stay—because leaving feels just as terrifying.… Read More Fear Replaces Love After Strangulation
