When you’ve lived through trauma, uncertainty itself can feel unsafe. That’s why dealing with evasive people — those who dodge questions, give vague answers, or go silent — can be so triggering. Your nervous system craves clarity, yet their avoidance creates confusion that echoes old wounds. Here are 5 trauma-informed strategies to help you protect… Read More 🛡️ 5 Trauma-Informed Steps for Handling Evasive People
2. Psychological Dynamics of Evasive People The important piece: their evasiveness is about them, not you. Trauma makes you feel like it’s personal or your fault, but often it’s a reflection of their own fear, immaturity, or hidden motives. 3. How to Handle Them (Trauma-Informed Strategies) A. Regulate Your Nervous System First B. Create Psychological Safety for Yourself C.… Read More 1. Why Evasiveness Feels So Triggering in Trauma
When someone is evasive, ignores a direct question, or makes excuses instead of answering, it feels not only rude, but also psychologically unsettling. Let’s unpack it through both psychology and neuroscience. 1. Why Some People Avoid Direct Answers (Psychology) 2. The Neuroscience of Evasiveness When someone perceives a question as threatening, their amygdala (the brain’s alarm system) activates. This can trigger: In these moments,… Read More Evasive
Leaving behind abuse and stepping into a new life with a new partner, in a new place, can feel both exhilarating and terrifying. Survivors often describe it as carrying two suitcases: one packed with hope, and the other with echoes of the past. Psychology and neuroscience help us understand why this transition can feel so… Read More 🌍 Starting Over: The Neuroscience of Building a New Life After Abuse
Starting a new life with a new partner in a different place is one of the biggest transitions someone can make, especially if they’re carrying the after-effects of abuse. Psychology and neuroscience give us some helpful insight into why this feels both liberating and frightening at the same time. 🧠 The Neuroscience of Starting Over 💡 The… Read More The Psychology of a Fresh Start
(Recognising When Abuse Becomes Life-Threatening) 1. Escalating Control 2. Verbal & Psychological Threats 3. Physical Warning Signs 4. High-Risk Red Flags 🚩 (If any of these are “yes,” the danger is severe and immediate) 5. Gut Feeling ✅ How to use this tool: 🛡 Safety Next Steps
Abuse doesn’t always start with something that looks “dangerous.” It can creep in slowly—controlling behaviour, put-downs, silent treatments, financial restrictions—before escalating into real threats to safety. The shift from “abuse” to “dangerous abuse” is often when the abuser begins crossing invisible lines of safety, and it can happen gradually or suddenly. Here are some key… Read More Dangerous
Bhajan Kaur was killed by her son after he was arrested on suspicion of coercive and controlling behaviour. Mary Haley was killed by her son at home after he had spent weeks demanding money from her. Sally Poynton was killed by her son after he was discharged from a mental health unit without a diagnosis… Read More Killing of women by men
An estimated 140 women and girls across the world die at the hands of their partner or family member every day, according to new global estimates on femicide by the UN. The report by UN Women found 85,000 women and girls were killed intentionally by men in 2023, with 60% (51,100) of these deaths committed by someone… Read More Global estimates on femicide by the UN.
In Europe, femicide—the gender-based killing of women by men—remains a deeply concerning issue, though the rates and patterns vary across countries. While the United Kingdom reports that a woman is killed by a man every three days, European statistics present a broader and more complex picture.OBC Transeuropa+2OBC Transeuropa+2 🇪🇺 European Overview In 2023, 749 women were… Read More Gender-based killing of women by men
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