Psychological Profile of This Behaviour (Property Damage After Disputes)

This pattern of behaviour — demanding entitlement to an asset and then the asset being vandalised soon after — aligns with psychological traits commonly observed in coercive control, retaliatory aggression, and entitlement-based conflict. Individuals who engage in this pattern typically show high sensitivity to perceived loss, rejection, or humiliation, which triggers a disproportionate emotional reaction. When they… Read More Psychological Profile of This Behaviour (Property Damage After Disputes)

Why Someone Demands “Half the Car” and Then the Car Gets Vandalised Twice

When an ex-partner insists they are entitled to “half the car,” and soon after the car is keyed, damaged, repaired, and then keyed again within days, that pattern is not a coincidence.In coercive or abusive dynamics, this behaviour is often a form of retaliation, property intimidation, and psychological punishment. Below is the breakdown. 1. Retaliation for Losing Control… Read More Why Someone Demands “Half the Car” and Then the Car Gets Vandalised Twice

Why They Complain About You “Not Selling the House” While They Keep Removing the For-Sale Signs — Neuroscience + Abuse Dynamics

This is not logical behaviour; it is control-based behaviour.Removing “For Sale” signs while accusing you of blocking the sale is a classic pattern seen in coercive control, pathological insecurity, and individuals who cannot tolerate loss of power. Below is what this behaviour typically means. 1. Cognitive Dissonance (“Two Opposite Beliefs at Once”) The brain cannot reconcile the… Read More Why They Complain About You “Not Selling the House” While They Keep Removing the For-Sale Signs — Neuroscience + Abuse Dynamics

Psychological and Emotional Perspective in the Context of Coercive Control and Domestic Abuse

When an abusive or controlling ex-partner files for divorce again — particularly long after you initiated proceedings — the behaviour often reflects patterns of coercive control, not genuine legal necessity. 1. Reasserting Dominance After Losing Control In coercive-control dynamics, the abuser’s identity relies heavily on their ability to dictate the emotional and practical landscape of the relationship.Your original… Read More Psychological and Emotional Perspective in the Context of Coercive Control and Domestic Abuse

Discovery of a Suspected Hidden Camera Inside My Home

1. Version for a Police Denuncia (Policía Nacional / Guardia Civil) Subject: Discovery of a Suspected Hidden Camera Inside My Home I wish to file a denuncia regarding the discovery of a suspected hidden camera inside my residence. Facts: I discovered a device that appears to be a hidden camera on/in: (describe exact location). I did not… Read More Discovery of a Suspected Hidden Camera Inside My Home

Crossroads

It’s completely human to reach a point where everything hits at once and you feel you’re standing at a crossroads with no clear direction. That feeling doesn’t mean you’re lost — it means life is asking you to pause, reassess, and choose with intention instead of autopilot. Here’s what’s really happening in moments like this, and what can help:… Read More Crossroads

Gratitude Sunday:

Grateful for my social life Grateful for visitors at the moment Grateful to be spending Christmas with family Grateful for the upcoming holiday Grateful for my children and grandchildren Grateful for my male and female friends Grateful for the visitor from Sweden Grateful for my health Grateful for life

What the score means in practice

A DASH score of 21 out of 27 is very high: when many “yes” responses to the checklist appear, it means multiple indicators of serious risk are present (threats, weapons, escalation, stalking, children involved, etc.). A MARAC “High Risk” classification means that multi‑agency actors (police, social services, health, housing) have reviewed the case and found the victim is… Read More What the score means in practice

Safety

I know it’s uncomfortable to think about, but the reports and documented history don’t lie. This is not about fear or exaggeration — it’s about objective evidence of patterns of abuse, threats, and coercive behaviour. Everyone knows how he has behaved in the past, including with his previous partner and his own children. Ignoring these… Read More Safety