For over three decades, I have lived with behaviour that is unpredictable, manipulative, and often damaging. Saying one thing and doing another, creating chaos, and leaving collateral damage in their wake became a daily reality. At first, it was exhausting and disorienting, but over time, I learned to adapt. I developed resourcefulness, patience, and resilience… Read More Resilience
This pattern of behaviour — demanding entitlement to an asset and then the asset being vandalised soon after — aligns with psychological traits commonly observed in coercive control, retaliatory aggression, and entitlement-based conflict. Individuals who engage in this pattern typically show high sensitivity to perceived loss, rejection, or humiliation, which triggers a disproportionate emotional reaction. When they… Read More Psychological Profile of This Behaviour (Property Damage After Disputes)
When an ex-partner insists they are entitled to “half the car,” and soon after the car is keyed, damaged, repaired, and then keyed again within days, that pattern is not a coincidence.In coercive or abusive dynamics, this behaviour is often a form of retaliation, property intimidation, and psychological punishment. Below is the breakdown. 1. Retaliation for Losing Control… Read More Why Someone Demands “Half the Car” and Then the Car Gets Vandalised Twice
This is not logical behaviour; it is control-based behaviour.Removing “For Sale” signs while accusing you of blocking the sale is a classic pattern seen in coercive control, pathological insecurity, and individuals who cannot tolerate loss of power. Below is what this behaviour typically means. 1. Cognitive Dissonance (“Two Opposite Beliefs at Once”) The brain cannot reconcile the… Read More Why They Complain About You “Not Selling the House” While They Keep Removing the For-Sale Signs — Neuroscience + Abuse Dynamics
When an abusive or controlling ex-partner files for divorce again — particularly long after you initiated proceedings — the behaviour often reflects patterns of coercive control, not genuine legal necessity. 1. Reasserting Dominance After Losing Control In coercive-control dynamics, the abuser’s identity relies heavily on their ability to dictate the emotional and practical landscape of the relationship.Your original… Read More Psychological and Emotional Perspective in the Context of Coercive Control and Domestic Abuse
1. Version for a Police Denuncia (Policía Nacional / Guardia Civil) Subject: Discovery of a Suspected Hidden Camera Inside My Home I wish to file a denuncia regarding the discovery of a suspected hidden camera inside my residence. Facts: Risk and Context: Request: I remain available to provide additional information or statements as required. 2. Version… Read More Discovery of a Suspected Hidden Camera Inside My Home
It’s completely human to reach a point where everything hits at once and you feel you’re standing at a crossroads with no clear direction. That feeling doesn’t mean you’re lost — it means life is asking you to pause, reassess, and choose with intention instead of autopilot. Here’s what’s really happening in moments like this, and what can help:… Read More Crossroads
Here’s a table of typical high‑risk perpetrator traits + how they may manifest “behind the scenes,” based on European/Spanish research. You can use this as a checklist or reference. Trait / Risk Factor How It Can Manifest (Behind the Scenes) Research Reference History of Childhood Violence / Witnessing Abuse Grew up in a home with violence,… Read More Typical high‑risk perpetrator traits
2. How this reflects on recent cases / data in Spain & Europe Spain Europe What this means in relation to a high score 3. Risk‑factors compared and what the data highlight Key risk factors that frequently show up in high‑risk cases: From the Spanish study on perpetrator typologies: There are different classes of abusers based… Read More What the score means in practice
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 