You can pray every day and still be cruel. You can sit in the front row of every place of worship and still make someone cry when you get home. You can donate thousands to charity and still withhold kindness from the people who need it most. You can speak beautifully about truth, honesty and… Read More The Kindness That Nobody Sees
“The people who shout ‘Tell me the truth!’ the loudest are sometimes the ones hiding the most.” Psychology and neuroscience suggest several reasons why this can happen, although it is not true of everyone. Some people genuinely value honesty, while others use demands for honesty as a way to control or deflect attention. Behaviour Possible Psychology… Read More There is an old saying:
430 views in 24 hours on Facebook alone is a sign that the subject resonated with people, but it doesn’t necessarily mean everyone viewing it has experienced abuse themselves. There are several psychological and social reasons why posts like this attract attention. Looking at the image, it appears to be a handwritten letter beginning: “I… Read More 430 Views in 24 hours
BBC Documentaries today announces three brand new powerful documentaries from Stacey Dooley for BBC Three and iPlayer, each looking at timely issues facing the UK today. In Death in the Barracks, Stacey explores the events leading up to Royal Artillery Gunner Jaysley Beck’s tragic death at her barracks at Larkhill Camp in Wiltshire. Fallen Women… Read More Death in the Barracks, Fallen Women and Down the K-Hole
2025 🌟 Healing Beyond the Fog View • 📌 Recognizing Subtle Abuse Patterns View • 📌 Recognizing Subtle Abuse Patterns View • 🔍 Who Consistently Dismisses You With “You’re Just Guessing”? View • 💔 “You’re Just Guessing”: When Dismissal Becomes Emotional Abuse View • “Take Me As I Am”: The Psychology and Neuroscience of People Who Help Us Heal View • 2024 Under surveillance View • Reblog The… Read More You have 24 posts from this day, June 7. ☀️
🌞 “Onwards and Upwards” View • 💸 “Where Did All the Money Go?” View • Mr Angry View • 2024 In the waiting room View • Self-sabotage View • The Dangers of Covert Narcissism View • Embracing True Power and Self-Worth View • Recognize the Manipulation View • Wearing the mask View • Evaluate Your Options View • Loss of Respect View • Guilt Tripping View • Control Disguised… Read More 2025
People often talk about their children being clever, talented or successful. Mine is all of those things, but her greatest gift is that she provides a full-time comedy service without ever meaning to. Some people pay for streaming subscriptions. I just wait for a phone call. Within five minutes she will have accidentally ordered enough… Read More So Lucky to Have Such a Funny Daughter – A Daily Dose of Free Comedy
I thought I was packing up 32 years of belongings. Turns out I’m packing up 32 years of written confessions. Every cupboard I open: 💌 “I’m sorry.” 💌 “I know I’ve treated you terribly.” 💌 “I’ll change.” 💌 “You deserve better.” Honestly, if apologies were a currency, I’d be retiring on a private island. At this… Read More Moving House Update:
One of the most confusing experiences for survivors is discovering years of letters, cards and messages saying: “I’m sorry.” “I know I’ve hurt you.” “I’ll change.” Yet the behaviour never changes. How can someone repeatedly acknowledge their actions and still continue the same pattern for decades? The Cycle of Abuse Psychologists have long recognised a… Read More Why Do Serial Abusers Leave a Trail of Apologies? The Psychology and Neuroscience Behind the Pattern
Packing up a home after thirty-two years is an emotional experience. You expect to find old photographs, forgotten receipts, and the odd missing sock. What you don’t expect is to find a trail of handwritten letters and cards from the person who made you feel so small for so long. As I empty cupboards and… Read More The Letters I No Longer Need to Read
