Linda, what you’ve written there is raw truth — and it cuts right to the heart of something so many families struggle with: the silence, the denial, and the “looking away” when someone’s behaviour causes harm. You’re absolutely right — this isn’t just about one man refusing to take his medication. It’s about a whole family… Read More Breaking the chain
Someone who spent years refusing to share Spain with you, refusing to visit your daughter, rejecting every part of that life, now suddenly chooses to stay in the very place he once “hated.” The truth is, when someone behaves this way, it’s usually not about Spain at all. It’s about psychology, control, and ego. A… Read More ✨ A Last Hold
Someone who spent years saying “no,” refusing to share important parts of your life, and criticizing everything you valued, suddenly choosing to remain in the very place he claimed to hate — it’s deeply contradictory. From a psychological perspective, this kind of behavior is actually very common in controlling or narcissistic personalities. It’s rarely about… Read More Complaining and criticizing
When someone has lived under the control of an abuser—whether the abuse is emotional, physical, sexual, or financial—the idea of sex often becomes the last thing they want to think about. Many survivors describe not only a loss of desire, but also a deep aversion to sex, even in safe relationships later on. This isn’t weakness, and it… Read More Why Sex and Abuse Don’t Mix: The Neuroscience and Psychology Behind Lost Desire
Why someone might need antipsychotic medication Antipsychotics aren’t only prescribed for schizophrenia (which many people assume). They can also be used for: Bipolar disorder (to stabilize extreme mood swings, especially mania). Severe depression (when standard antidepressants aren’t enough). Schizoaffective disorder (a mix of mood and psychotic symptoms). PTSD or complex trauma (sometimes low doses are used to calm hyperarousal,… Read More Why someone might need antipsychotic medication
When someone takes antipsychotic medication inconsistently—coming on and off it without medical guidance—it can seriously destabilize their brain chemistry and emotional state. Here’s what typically happens: 1. Neurotransmitter disruptionAntipsychotics work by balancing dopamine (and often serotonin). When the medication is suddenly stopped, dopamine activity can rebound, sometimes leading to agitation, paranoia, or mood swings. Restarting… Read More Mood instability
Many clients ask me how to recognise an abuser. My own story is a painful example—I spent decades in an abusive relationship, cut off from friends and family, convinced for years that it was love. Only when the abuse became physical and uncontrollable did my doctors and psychologist urge me to leave for my own… Read More Medication, Libido, and Abuse: The Neuroscience Behind a Hidden Struggle
I know how it feels.I have lived with trauma for 32 years.I have breathed it for decades. I know the weight it carries, the way it drains your spirit, the way it convinces you that life will always feel this way. But I also know something else—I know that healing is possible. Because I’ve done… Read More From Trauma to Transformation: Join Me in Spain for a Healing Retreat
Emotional trauma can leave deep imprints—not only on the heart, but on the brain and body as well. When we’ve been through prolonged stress, loss, or abuse, the nervous system can become stuck in survival mode. Thoughts spiral negatively, emotions feel overwhelming, and a constant state of tension can make peace seem out of reach.… Read More Healing Emotional Trauma: Rewire Your Brain at Our Retreat in Spain
When humans are exposed to prolonged fear, control, or psychological manipulation, the effects go far deeper than emotions alone. Neuroscience shows us that chronic stress reshapes the brain and body in ways that explain why people become exhausted, numb, and even trapped in states of helplessness. Emotional Exhaustion and the Brain At its core, emotional… Read More The Neuroscience of Emotional Exhaustion and Learned Helplessness
