Author: Linda C J Turner

Linda CJ Turner Trauma & Relationship Specialist | Neuroscience & Emotional Regulation | Women 45+ | Emotional Abuse & Coercive Control Recovery You survived it. Now it’s time to heal from it.

Triangulation

Triangulation: Triangulation is a psychological manipulation tactic often used in dysfunctional relationships or social dynamics. In this context, the person pits two friends (or groups) against each other by spreading rumors, sharing half-truths, or manipulating information to create conflict. The manipulator remains in control of the situation by fueling the tension between the other parties, effectively keeping them from uniting or seeing the manipulator’s true intent. This behavior is common among individuals with narcissistic traits.The goal of triangulation is to:

Create divisions and keep others in a state of conflict or confusion.

Gain control by being the central figure who controls the flow of information.

Divert attention away from their own actions, thereby avoiding accountability.

Projection: Projection occurs when a person attributes their own unwanted feelin… Read More Triangulation

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Passive-Aggressive Behavior

Guilt-Tripping: They may also use guilt to manipulate others. For example, instead of directly asking for help, a passive-aggressive person might say, “I guess I’ll just do it myself since no one cares enough to offer,” making the other person feel obligated to step in.

Disguised Hostility: While passive-aggressive individuals rarely express their anger overtly, their actions often have hostile undertones. For example, they may “forget” to pass on an important message or arrive late to a meeting to undermine someone else.

Ambiguity and Evasiveness: They tend to avoid giving clear answers or taking a firm stance on issues. When asked a direct question, they might respond with vague, non-committal statements like, “I guess,” or “We’ll see,” which leaves the other person in a state of uncertainty.… Read More Passive-Aggressive Behavior

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Hypocrisy

It’s important to recognize these patterns and set boundaries with individuals who exhibit this behavior. Directly confronting them may not always be effective, as they often refuse to see or admit their own contradictions. However, creating distance and surrounding yourself with those who value honesty and integrity can protect you from the harm their hypocrisy causes.… Read More Hypocrisy

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Self Reflection

When you make mistakes that hurt friends and family, especially if those mistakes involve trying to create rifts between others, it’s crucial to take responsibility and focus on addressing your own issues rather than deflecting attention onto others. This kind of behavior often stems from personal insecurities or unresolved problems, and it’s important to recognize this as the first step toward healing and making amends.… Read More Self Reflection

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Paranoia

Substance-induced paranoia often creates a feedback loop that can be difficult to break. The paranoia itself may lead to increased substance use as the individual tries to cope with their overwhelming fear and anxiety. Unfortunately, continued substance use often exacerbates the paranoia, leading to a worsening of symptoms and further strain on relationships.… Read More Paranoia

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